Salvor, from what you post, it seem that you are failing to understand your opponents and see their beliefs in light of their own. you are also demonising and strawmanning them to a degree.
Nobody ever said that government is inherently bad, and everybody but the most hard-core anarchist believes that government can be good/bad/or neutral. Yet you speak about this view as though only you hold this view, and you can’t make your opponents see why it is so sensible. Of course that is a strawman and a heapin’ helpin’ of demonisation. Everybody agrees with those sentiments. The most hard core Communists, Libertarians, Fascists and so forth all believe those things.
Where you differ from your opponents is in their belief that governments are inherently untrustworthy and that granting governments more control over the day-to-day life of its citizens is something that should be granted very rarely and only when there is a compelling reason to do so. Only by doing this can a government be *made *neutral or good. The more power a government has, the less likely it is to be good.
But you mischaracterise this as “these people believe that governments are destructive by default”. Nope. Nobody believes that.
The second problem seems to be that you are failing to see your opponents through the light of your own experience. This is almost always coupled to mischaracterisation and demonisation.
You seems baffled by the idea that people can believe that “the state using force to tax incomes for other purposes is NEVER OK.” But that is what an axiom is: it’s an assumption from which all else proceeds. Any philosophical viewpoint *must * rest upon such axioms.
Did you ever consider that you hold to your axioms in exactly the same way?
Do you oppose the death penalty because the state executing even a small subset of innocent people is NEVER OK. Not because it produces worse results, because… just because?
Would you really support a return to generational slavery if I could demonstrate to you that it produced better results? Or do you believe that the state allowing a child to be born to a life of bondage is NEVER OK. Not because it produces worse results, because… just because?
And so on and so forth.
Of course you believe things like that. You must, otherwise you wouldn’t have any philosophical standpoint to argue. Your philosophical position in these debates is just as embedded in absolutist axioms as anybody else. The only difference is the axioms that you proceed from.
Yet despite this, you say that you are utterly baffled because your opponent proceeds from absolutist axioms. That leads me to either or both of the following conclusions.
The first is that you have never attempted to see your opponents position in light of you own experience. If that is the case, then you will never be able to discuss these issues with them in a civilised manner. Your mindset is just too different from theirs to enable you to understand them. The only way that you can understand someone with a mindset radically different from your own is to look at their views in light of your own experience. In this case you need to start from a very basic position of admitting that you, just like them and like every other person that has ever lived, have built your philosophy on arbitrary, absolutist axioms. Once you do that, then you can move to a position where you can say “I can understand how you can believe that. I don’t agree with it, but I can see how you believe it”. You need to reach that point before you can argue an issue with anybody.
But the first step is rid yourself of this bafflement that somebody can believe that something is morally NEVER OK, not because it produces worse results, but simply because. You believe things like that yourself, and once you accept that your bafflement that others can believe similar but different things will vanish.
My second conclusion is that you utterly reject the validity of your opponent’s axioms, but that you have no compelling reason for doing so. I reach this conclusion because if you had a compelling reason for rejecting the axiom, it would be trivially easy to produce that reason and proceed with the real debate. but you don’t do that. You just look baffled that anyone can adhere to the axiom
We’ve all been where you are: arguing with someone who simply does not accept the same axioms that we do. That’s just the way the world is. These are moral issues, and any axiom is arbitrary. Someone who starts from the axiom that life begins at conception isn’t any more right than an iron-age Norwegian who believes that life begins when a child is given a name, and that abortion up to the 9th trimester is perfectly OK. These are axioms and one isn’t better than the other. They are all arbitrary.
You *can *argue about the axioms, but you don’t want to do that. You want to argue the *conclusion *that proceeds from them, then act baffled when you discover that your opponent has bee arguing from absolutist axioms. You can’t do that. An argument is a good way to discover what our underlying absolutist axioms are, since few of us can articulate them. At that point we can argue the axioms. But what you can not do is argue a logical conclusion that flows from “governments are untrustworthy and must be limited as far as possible” and then reject the argument because you are shocked that someone is arguing from that axiom.
That’s not honest and it’s not logically valid.