I’m amazed when I’m around people who are clueless about Star Wars.
I find that I either like people or not, and it doesn’t really depend on how smart they are or how much they know. Are they genuinely good people who add something to your life? Maybe they are funny or cheerful or honest or just all round loving people, then how great is it to have them as friends?
Ever wonder what your painfully stupid friends think of you ?
Or wether, in your group, you’re the painfully stupid one? It’s all relative, after all.
Man, this post is old but just thought I’d add my 2 cents. I think the poster has every right to think her friend is stupid and to walk away for that reason. We are allowed to have judgements of people and not like them for any reason.
I have realized my failure to judge people as such has made me choose friends who can’t support me in the way I need if shit hits the fan because they’re too dumb to get my hints, to put patterns of behavior together or to understand nuance without getting overwhelmed.
I am pretty intelligent and have been high-performing academically my entire life. Still someone in college judged me as “a bit slow” in a blog post she wrote and didn’t know I’d see and while it kinda hurt my ego at the time, I realized I didn’t much like her anyway and thought she was unkind and unkempt to say the least. Now several years later this post caused me to take a peek at her FB and she is still arrogant, unattractive and morbidly obese. Look whose slow now haha haha.
Reminds me of a young lady I mentioned elsewhere on this Board. Back in West Texas, we were both regulars in the same bar. Once after she asked me where I’d been for the past couple of weeks and I had answered, “Mexico,” she asked me, “Where’s that?” (Did I mention this was in Texas? The state she was born and raised in.) I thought she was joking, but when I laughed I felt really bad when she got all pouty and said, “Well, I’m not smart like you are.” She really didn’t have a clue where Mexico was. (No, she was not pulling my leg. You had to know her.)
I know someone who thinks Canada is a state. I didn’t have the the heart to enlighten her. I figure it won’t make a real difference ever, in her life.
That, there is what you call blissfully ignorant.
My only concern is if she figures it out and then asks me why I never told her.
Sorta puts a damper on our friendship.
Wadda you gonna do?
I almost wish the painfully stupid people I know were people who didn’t know some facts - they thought Canada is a state or have no idea what the Berlin Wall was.
Those are easy- instead I get the ones who fundamentally don't understand some simple process and have difficulty understanding even when it's explained - like one of my husband's best friends. I can't spend too much time with him because my head will explode .
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For three years he insisted that he had a debit-credit card . One card that did both. Took three years to get him to understand that the difference between a debit card and a credit card is where the money comes from, not the processing method.
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Spent years complaining about his boss canceling his vacations and days off on short notice. Typically, he’d find out that he couldn’t take the time off about a week before. Then one year he said " I reminded Steve to have my vacation pay ready and he told me I can’t have vacation next week because he’s taking off" . We of course said " What an asshole -when did you tell him you wanted the time off?" We were stunned to get the answer " I always take the third week of June". This guy somehow thought most people always take the same time off year-to-year and bosses remember who takes which week - so in his mind, Steve will never make plans for the third week in June because that’s when America’s Idiot takes his vacation.
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I distinctly remember one trip we were on. It was time to stop for lunch and some of the group wanted to eat at a buffet. This guy was OK with stopping at the buffet- as he put it, he wasn’t hungry so he was just going to sit with us. Didn’t understand that the buffet was going to charge him just for going in. Caused a problem - because it was just incomprehensible to other people that he didn’t know that. It was a $10 or $15 buffet, so they just assumed he didn’t mind paying even though he wasn’t planning to eat.
Didn’t we just have a recent thread on this exact topic?
Have you tried not expecting people to get your hints, but instead just asking them, so they’ll actually know that you need something and what it is?
Strikes me that that would be an intelligent thing to do.
What on earth do her weight or anything about her looks have to do with her intelligence?
And why do you think you’re entitled to laugh at her looks, her weight, or, if she’s actually stupid, her lack of wits?
There are at least 10 places in the USA named “Mexico”. I’m presuming that you meant the country, as I wouldn’t expect somebody in a Texas bar to know where Mexico, New York is; but are you sure that she knew you meant the country?
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Absolutely, 100% sure.
Since I read that, I’ve been repeating it when I hear people asking questions where the answer should be obvious.
I can easily feel superior in those cases, but then I picture a friend of mine telling someone “Oh, man, digs is useless. We were talking about linebackers, and you could tell he’d never heard of Briggs or Bulldog or even Buffone!”*
*sigh, I had to google Bears linebackers… I am useless when it comes to watching Natl. Pointyball League games with my friends.