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I am extremely sympathic towards parents with special needs children, especially those with children who are as profoundly handicapped as the child in the article. I can’t even begin to imagine the stress of raising and educating a child who, at least on the surface, seems so hopeless and limited. I think we as a society need to provide services for families caring for handicapped children, both to ease their burdens and to help all children to reach their full potential.
But how far should we go in this quest? Having the taxpayer pick up a six-figure tuition bill seems outrageous to me. Outrageous and unfair. I totally understand the parents’ need to have a son who can function at home, but is this boarding school the only place where this child can be trained? No place cheaper? It seems to me that if the Perkins expect to be reimbursed by the taxpayer for going out of the school system, the taxpayer should have had a choice in picking out a facility. If I’m paying for your lunch, I’d rather you buy the cheeseburger than the filet mignon. If you want the filet mignon, fine. But be willing to make up the difference when the bill comes.
If the Perkins win their suit, what will this mean for others in their situation? Will school districts all over the country be called to pay for high-end tuition costs to educate its most disabled students? If so, will school districts be called upon to pay for high-end tuition costs for those at the other end of the spectrum, the most gifted of the gifted students? If I have a ten-year-old who’s frustrated that he can do advanced calculus while everyone else is still learning fractions, will the school system pay for his classes at the state university? If I find an elite boarding school for uber-geniuses, can I send them the tuition bill each year?
I admit another reason why I’m having a problem with their suit is that I think they used their upper-middle-class priviledges to game the system. If the Perkins were a poor family, they wouldn’t have had the means to enroll their son in a top-notch boarding school half-way across the country. They would have made do with local programs and hoped for the best. If school districts are going to pay for parents to take their kids to high-end boarding schools, will such a program favor the rich and poor equally? Or will it favor the former, since these parents will have the know-how to find the best schools and the ability to pay for fees before being reimbursement.
I’d like to hear what other Dopers have to say, particularly those with special-needs kids.