It’s astonishing how many people don’t comprehend that weight management is a very complex issue for so many of us. You sound plain ignorant when you say it’s “just” a matter of will power. If you haven’t been in this kind of position, you have no understanding and no right to judge or make pronouncements on what we should or shouldn’t be doing. You are NOT helping anyone and in fact you’re probably demoralizing some. Way to go.
DSeid, astro and Kaio, I’ve thoroughly enjoyed your informative posts in this thread.
It’s taken me a long time to change my habits. Like many of you I’ve been overweight for more of my life than I haven’t. But I’m succeeding. It was a process of changing my behavior and I didn’t even lose weight for the first few months. Slowly I got off caffeine and started taking vitamins and supplements geared toward curbing my appetite, balancing my blood sugar and thyroid, etc. Check out Chromium GTF and 5-HTP for curbing the cravings.
As the supplements started kicking in, what I craved was protein and vegetables. I’m not kidding. Never thought I’d see the day, and that I was doomed to feel deprived the rest of my life. It felt like my body was functioning like a “normal” person’s. Protein’s been a key-I did calorie counting which was a PITA and left me hungry all the time, but if I have three servings of lean protein a day I feel really good. I have whatever fruits and vegi’s I want, and only two slices of non-white bread. I found that carbs from starch leave me really shaky so I avoid them mostly, but I do need some. I don’t worry about whether my salad dressing’s low fat or not.
Eating out throws me way off so I try to avoid it, but my Mom likes to do lunch. I try to limit it to once or twice a week.
Buying crap was a habit that was hard to break, but I found if I didn’t bring it in the house, I didn’t eat it. What a concept! My BF still eats crap, but now I’m to the point where I can get him a KitKat, not get one for myself, and not feel deprived. I do occasionally mutter, “fracking skinny dude…” under my breath.
I added exercise, very slowly. At first I did it every other day to let my muscles recover. I’d push myself a tiny bit more every time. Just a tiny bit. Then I shortened the duration and went to every day. The key for me was to not overdo it and get discouraged because I either hurt myself or got really sore. I’d put a red heart sticker on my calendar for every day I exercised. I still do it. It sounds kind of silly, but it’s nice to see that page full of hearts.
Exercise SUCKS. I hate it. But it works consistently for me. I quit even trying to make it “fun” and just do time on my Tony Little Gazelle while watching TV. Sometimes I go walk on the boardwalk at the beach. I just accepted that exercise is something I have to do. I piss and moan, get it over with, put the heart on the calendar and go on with my day.
It has been SO HARD changing things, but it’s an accomplishment. It is still a work in progress-I suspect I’ll always have to stay on top of things and never quit thinking about what I’m eating and doing. I still have things to change. My advice to anyone is to start with one little manageable change. Stick with it for awhile, a month and congratulate yourself at every opportunity for sticking with it. When you’re comfortable with that change and have integrated it into your life, make another tiny change. It’s FINALLY what worked for me.