Same here. We sometimes instant message during the day. Other than that, maybe a text to ask what time he’ll be home so I can have dinner ready.
We live together now, but while we were in the dating phase, we normally communicated through email about once a day. Neither of us like to talk on the phone. A ten minute phone call for me is an eternity. (I normally only stay on the phone with my Mom or sister about 4 minutes before I am ready to hang up.) Some days we didn’t even email! :eek: I cannot even fathom having to talk to someone every hour.
We live together. I’ll typically text him around lunchtime or so (we’ll often send little <3 texts) and then maybe send a couple texts near the end of the day to talk about dinner, ect. We don’t see eachother from about 7 a.m. until about 7 p.m. during the week, so I don’t feel bad about a few spattered texts here and there throughout the day.
We never talk on the phone, though. Neither one of us are phone people. Come to think of it, I don’t really talk to anyone over the phone. I have a couple co-workers who are constantly on the phone with their family/S.O, thoughout the day. That’s pretty obnoxious for those who are stuck listening to dozens of inane conversations throughout the day.
I used to answer phones at this office back in the day. My co-worker’s daugthers used to call her constantly. From about 2:30 p.m, when they got out of school, until about 4:30 p.m when she left, there’d be no less than 5 or 6 phone calls. It was totally ridiculous. My mom would’ve smacked me if I bugged her that much at work when I was a kid.
Well geeze, I must be the odd man out here because I love the constant communication. I just started dating my current bf, so we just have the phone call at night (but often a little bit of IMing or texting earlier in the day).
But with my last boyfriend, we had the good morning call, the got done with the morning workout call, the lunchtime call, the just-got home from work call, the after-dinner call, and the bedtime call. He was usually the one to call me, so if I had a meeting at some point in the day, I would always have to remember to tell him beforehand so that if he called while I was in the meeting he wouldn’t get worried about why I wasn’t answering my phone.
My friends would comment that they would get annoyed if their boyfriend did what mine did. But since I’m a high maintenance attention whore – well, truth be told, I miss all that phone time.
Yeah, I think you are the odd one out on this. I definitely could not imagine talking that much with one single person every day. And I consider myself to be quite the attention whore and talker myself.
I do like to communicate with someone I’m with once a day, or round-about, but skipping a day here and there wouldn’t worry or bother me much. I’d probably be pretty freaked out if someone was calling me several times a day, or if they were worried/mad if I didn’t answer or call them back right away.
On the flip side of this though, I had an ex who when I would call him, he’d purposely not answer and then text me “what’s up”. What’s up is you need to answer your phone! That drove me absolutely nuts. So I think the key for me would be balance. 
My ideal woman is one who only wants to spend about %5 of her time with me.
I think your best bet is to have an affair.
Where on earth do you find women who will spend that much time with you? 
I put half a day but it really depends. Sometimes, if he’s at work and I’m just at home working on my computer, we wont talk or text at all. Other days, if one of us comes up with something the other just has to know, we’ll usually text it. I text him to find out if he needs something if I’m at a particular store, but this is just because we only have one car and killing two chores with one trip just makes sense. I also text him pictures if the puppies do something particularly cute. He texts me occasionally asking me to kill him (when work is being annoying).
So, it really just depends on the day. We frequently have a conversation that lasts the whole day but that’s only because the texts don’t go through the first time or we’re driving and cant reply.
He’s at a sleep study tonight and my mother is sleeping. My phone has been very quiet.
It depends. We live together so neither of us really see the point of contacting each other during the day unless there’s a specific reason. Occasionally he’ll call me or text me in the afternoon just to say “I miss you” or “<insert dirty thing here>”. And sometimes we’ll email each other silly articles we find online. But most days we see each other in the morning before work and then no contact until both of us get home.
Sometimes I’ll spend a weekend at my parents’ or he’ll go away with the guys to race around on motorcycles. Usually we’ll have a brief chat that evening. When either of us are out of the country we’ll talk once a day or every two days, depending.
I dated guys in college that expected me to be in touch every few hours, and would send me inane cutesy text messages and then get mad when I didn’t respond. Drives me up the freakin’ wall.
One of my bosses was a Peter Pan type married to another; they called each other at least twice during the morning and once during the afternoon, having had lunch together. They once french-kissed in the middle of the “Santa brings presents for the factory workers’ children” party, while their eldest daughter did her best to look like she didn’t know Those Two, promise, nothing to do with them, the fact that she’d arrived in Those Two’s car was an accident of fate…
So yeah, most people get over it, but occasionally you run into a couple that still behaves like they’re four years old.
At my last job, couple of times a day, usually texting (sms) or a quick email. Usually to say one of the things my coworkers did was amusing, or what new weird task I had to do that day, or a funny or insightful news article. But FTR, it seems to me a generational thing - most of my coworkers were 40-65, and used email as a utilitarian thing. I do remember one day a coworker practically running over tables when our office got a call that it was his wife. So they must never talk during the day.
You left off ‘Infrequently throughout the week’, so I didn’t vote. I really, really, really hate both talking on the phone and conversations without something to say, so I’m definitely on the low end of the scale. I pretty much only contact a girl as a means of setting up a date - I’d rather just wait 'til we’re hanging out to talk. So, it varies a bit on schedules, but anywhere from a few times a week to less than once. My last relationship, we were on different schedules, so probably less. I’m just starting to get into a potential relationship (five dates, I think?), and it’s been roughly one date per week, and one extended text session in between setting up the next date. I’m only counting that as once, since it’s a single conversation, even if it’s a dozen or two texts over the day.
Your four-year olds are bit more promiscuous than mine 
He’s still asleep when I leave in the morning so I might not have any contact with him until I get home in the evening. If there’s anything important then we will email each other but if we don’t speak/text etc all day, it’s not a problem. Our relationship is secure enough that we know the love is there even if we don’t proclaim it constantly and piss off everyone in hearing distance!
Usually never during the work day. I have to talk on the phone all day at work so I HATE phone calls that aren’t 100% necessary. I’ll use or receive a text for something minor. I will only use the phone if it is something that can not be handled in a quick text or two. I can’t email or IM outside of work.
My relationship with my SO changes in routine in relation to his shift pattern at work. He works offshore on various oil-rigs, so he’s offshore 3 weeks, and home 2 weeks. When he’s offshore he usually calls every day, but depending on the rig, our calls will be limited to 10-15 mins. This does suck quite a lot, but we’ve been together a year nearly, so I am getting used to it.
On his time off, we spend every night together, but can spend the day time apart, and in that case, we’ll usually text or call a few times during the day. I guess our situation does change our actions, cause we do try to make the most of our time together when he’s home. Also, it’s a novelty to be able to phone or text him without waiting for his phonecall all day. No mobile towers in the north sea = not being able to contact him. Even in an emergency. :mad:
One of my past relationships was with someone who needed phone or IM contact ALL DAY, and it drove me so mad. I could never go back to that. I’m not so keen on talking on the phone, which was just exasperated by having absolutely nothing new to tell him. Jeeze, he’d only just hung up the phone half an hour ago! fanny.
Since we live together/spend most of out-of-work time together, keeping up with one another doesn’t take much…
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A funny thing: we do something that might be constituted as a ‘check-in’. Example: we’re reading/gaming in the same room, silent for a few hours. Then one of us would make a nonsensical at the other, who would, in turn, respond. Maybe it’s an “I’m allright, how’re you?” sort of thing. Seems to be split pretty evenly in terms of who originates the exchange.
Does anyone else notice themselves doing anything like this with their SOs, and if so, what’s your justification for it?
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With that said, there’s definitely something special in spending time together in silence. It can still be satisfying, even if neither of the people has anything to say.
I voted end of every day, but my option isnt’ really up there : We live together, but we’re not married. Generally, we see each other every night, but we don’t always spend them doing things together.