I think you two might be running into a question because you are focusing on only one side of the evaluation. From my perspective it is not a question of “bigotry is less wrong than jaywalking” or any similar formulation. It is: outlawing bogotry requires limits to freedom of expression that I find diminishes the social good rather than enhancing it. It is more of a social cost/benefit analysis for the “rule” under consideration rather than a comparison of “how wrong is X relative to Y”?
No, I don’t think so (for the first statement), possibly (for the second).
That is another way to look at it, but it’s not the moral consideration, more like public interest.
I’d say that bigotry is morally wrong, but not nearly on the same plane as non-victimless crimes.
Oh. I’m lost, then.