It seems pretty straightforward to me. There’s nothing wrong per se with talking about who you’d like to fuck, and there are plenty of other places you can do that. But the majority of the SDMB community have decided they don’t want this to be one of those places, because we want the community to be inclusive, and that kind of thing is offputting for a lot of people. I don’t see how this is any different from real life, where consensus social convention dictates an appropriate time and place for different types of conversation.
Unless you have some cogent argument why talking about sexual fantasies needs to be an integral part of a board that’s primarily about fighting ignorance, why not just accept that and not be a jerk about it?
If this were actually true, or if I had just started commenting on her body without this video being out there, you’d have a definite point. But it’s absurd to say that her pose at the beginning of the video (against the wall), combined with the tight clothing choice, wasn’t meant to be sexy. Come ON. :rolleyes: And I’m not shaming her for this! If you’ve got it, flaunt it. Good for her.
That was whining about a supposed “hijack” of a thread about genital mutilation, where they wanted male genital mutilation to be a forbidden topic. Forgive me if I didn’t make a remote mental connection between that and this. (Feel free to cite any of those seven posts and show how they have anything to do with “lechery” or any kind of sexually appreciative commentary on women’s bodies for that matter.)
I’m saying I didn’t know about the current ATMB thread (I don’t usually read this board) until after the warning. Nor can I recall seeing any recent warnings or mod notes about sexual lasciviousness or related matters on any of the threads I do participate in.
I should note that in general, I don’t peruse the topics on any SDMB boards. When I want to talk about a movie or TV show, I go to Google and enter “[movie/show name] sdmb” and click the link. Then I follow email notifications or (since those have been wonky lately) just leave my active threads open and refresh them. That’s probably not the way people would ideally prefer we participate here, but that’s just honestly how I manage my time and keep from getting into timesucks I can’t afford.
I would have appreciated seeing the post moved to the appropriate forum or—if the reasonable description you have provided here applies to all the boards of the SDMB, how about a mod note explaining it the way you did (not “you’re being a jerk”, WTF) and closing the thread without a warning?
There is clearly a lot of puritanism about that I have been oblivious to. I posted the same exact comment when linking the video on Facebook (including the “slammin’ bod” bit), and my wife was not a happy camper even though I showed her I had excluded her parents, brother, and grandparents from seeing the post. And now a few hours later, no one has “liked” or commented on it in any way, which is pretty unusual. People are getting way too uptight IMO.
It was a recreation of the dance scenes from The Breakfast Club. She was doing Ally Sheedy's dance. It wasn't intended to be "sexy." For context: the entire video is here.
Her clothes look comfortable. And pretty fucking normal. The way she is dressed is the same as everyone else in the video. She wasn't posing for you. She wasn't dressing for you. Learn to keep your thoughts to yourself.
No, I don’t read threads I don’t post in. Actually, other than threads about movies and TV shows, I don’t post much in threads I didn’t start. Which I realize is actually not that cool, because if everyone did that, how would we have any conversations going? So mea culpa on that, but I’m not lying about what I said.
ETA: I didn’t know it was supposed to be Ally Sheedy’s “Breakfast Club” dance, but that was pretty sexy too! Or is that not okay to say either?
Can anyone honestly deny that what I said was not hostile, disparaging, or even mocking of AOC? It was appreciative, albeit in a way that many people obviously find icky, but there should be a grey area where people just roll their eyes or even say “gross” and leave it at that. To say that something is not a violation is not the same as saying you endorse it or want to be associated with the kind of person with that personality.
…your question has nothing to do with why you were moderated, and answering it would clearly outside the scope of this particular forum. Do you need any help parsing or understanding what Bone told you? It appears that you are struggling, if you need any help I’m sure we can help you out, just let us know.
Some people may differ from you as to whether “I am going to behaving a wank or several over this non-porn video posted as an anonymous attack on a female politician” was hostile or not, I guess.
For the record - none of those three examples are “political people” talking about “it”, which is what Drunky Smurf, of all people, requested.
SlackerInc’s thoughts on Alexandria Occasio-Cortez’ body are entirely his own contribution.
Also for the record: None of those people are “political people”. They are writers & journalists.
And because you seem confused about this: the misogyny part is treating a woman like a sex object (ie - saying that now you will vote for her because she’s sexy) rather than respecting the quality of her ideas and goals.
Did you try making this argument to your wife? Or all those people on Facebook who didn’t appreciate your “icky” post? Maybe you can convince them that you didn’t realize you were being creepy because you never read anything on internet unless you post it yourself.