Who gives a shit if there have been long board discussions? I don’t see what rule was violated, not even the “don’t be a jerk” rule.
This was a “serious” discussion? Or about “body issues”? The OP was asking about something that “didn’t sit well” with her that another thread got her musing over. The comment wasn’t something I think anyone that isn’t overly sensitive would get worked up about. I don’t recall what the long discussions here were about, but the OP said she has gotten more attractive. Someone jokes that he bets it was a boob job. Just not seeing this as a warnable offense.
“What the fuck is wrong with you?” doesn’t even get a wrist slap?
Gato makes snarky remarks. It’s his thing, for the most part.
In any case, his remark was his usual fare. We have all been warned on double, secret, we-really-really-mean it, not to be jerks when folks want to talk about sensitive topics. He was a jerk. He earned the warning.
I’m not going to search for it, but the long discussions lead to a specific rule. Basically, a lot of women were tired of bringing up their bodies in serious contexts–social or even medical–only to have a few posters go “Hurr, hurr, boobies” like they were a 12 year old on 4chan. The mods made an announcement that anyone doing this would get a warning. That’s what happened.
Since you’re starting off with “offensive or not”, I guess you think dismissive comments in general are warnable offenses? That would make a lot more joke posts warnable than actually get warnings.
Again, this was the OP musing over something that didn’t quite sit well with her about something that she was otherwise thrilled with. Sorry, I still don’t see it, but I won’t debate it. I’m outnumbered by people I respect as being very reasonable, so I guess it’s me on this one.
Excellent call. Enough mod slapdowns like this and maybe the “boobz hurr durr pictures or it didn’t happen amirite” crowd will be shamed into the 21st century.
I read this post out of curiosity, wondering if the warning in question might be the sort of mod overreaction that sometimes happens. Nope. When someone asks a sincere question about a sensitive personal matter, there is NO situation in which a tasteless joke is an appropriate response, and being offended in such a vulnerable situation is not being “overly sensitive”.
Ellen Cherry set out the guidelines in the first post. Locked thread, so I can’t quote directly.
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**Here, then, are the guidelines we will use when determining whether a post with sexual references needs review and might be subject to moderation:
Is it directed at another poster on this board?
Is it a sexual comment in a thread with a non-sexual topic?
Is it a sexual joke in a thread on a serious sexual topic?**
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Think about what you post. If you’re writing it to either score points in a battle, or up your cred as an acknowledged board wit — consider that the wider target of your point might view it differently than you. Think about if you’re contributing to ongoing dialog or to ongoing dissension. Think about what brought most of us to this board: the desire for an exchange of ideas among other intelligent people whose backgrounds may be different from our own. Please bear that in mind when articulating your thoughts.
This is the consensus of the moderating staff.
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