I am where I am due to my personal choices. I am a recovering alkie and have been upfront about that for a long time. I wasted about 15 years on that. When I finally quit drinking I was homeless, jobless, carless and basically screwed.
Within a year of getting sober I had a job, a new car and a nice place to live. Within about 4 years I had a house. 10 years in I have a house, I am married and my salary has more than quadrupled from what I was earning when I first got sober. I know the idea of some people taking personal responsibility for their bad actions and the results of those actions is probably foreign to you, at least from your posting history. My life is my responsibility and for a good long time I made a shitload of bad choices and it is all my own fault. And for the past 10 years I have been making the right choices and, who’d a thunk it, I am doing better. Much better.
Additionally, I will be a millionaire when I retire. Assuming the country doesn’t go tits up of course. Not loaded, buy anything I want millionaire but own my house and do a lot of nice stuff millionaire. Oh, and I will retire early. Compound interest is my friend. Had I not drunk away my job and a bunch of stock options that went along with it I’d probably be retired now.
I had some assistance getting up that came from A.A. and a bit from my family. For example, my parents were nice enough to loan me a car and buy me a decent (read $20 each) pair of slacks and a shirt so I could go to a interview without looking like a homeless guy. Oh, I also used their address on applications instead of the address of the halfway house I was living in at the time.
The reason I asked the questions in the OP is two fold. First, it seems to me anyway, that a lot of personal behavior that exacerbates the poverty issue is ignored on this board.
Second I highly disagree with the
mindset though I think a better word than fault would be responsibility, which is why I used that word in the OP.
When looking at a problem, the cause of the problem is a rather important thing to find. If the problem is behavioral, well, pretending it is not a behavior problem isn’t going to help much. The attitude that ‘you can’t blame poor people for being poor’ equates to ‘you can’t blame poor people for being poor, no matter what they do’.
If a poor person is making bad decisions that are going to keep them in poverty, it doesn’t matter if they learned the behavior from their parents or not. What matters is identifying the problem behavior and then convincing the person to change that behavior*.
*Which, frankly I have no idea on how to do effectively. My wife and I are having some issues along these lines with her son and daughter. Both are making some very bad decisions. Trying to convince them to change their behavior is a bitch. However, it seems the oldest daughter is figuring it out now and starting to do the right things.