We almost always use first names. The kids have special pet names (one is Tiger, Sweet Potato, Pumpkin Pie, or Piggie; the other is Bunny, Love, or Peanut; collectively they are Monkeys), but not the hubby. I do call him by his last name sometimes.
We use first names about 70% of the time. My husband is pretty private about our pet names for each other. He’ll occasionally use them in front of the kids, but rarely around family or in public.
I don’t use generic terms of endearment like “honey” and “baby” ever and never really have. I call Ben “Ben” 90% of the time. The other 10% I call him “Ben Ben” which comes from the fact that he seems to think he needs two Xbox profiles and labeled the extra one “Ben II” so one day when I was signing myself out to sign him in I asked “Are you using ‘Ben’ or ‘Ben Ben’?”
He also does not tend to use generic names for me (with the exception of the very occasional “baby”) but he did come up with a nickname for me that he favors so that when he does use my given name, I am surprised. I actually prefer my given name really, but I don’t dislike the use of nicknames so I let it slide.
I think I called her by her name once.
I think.
Only when I’m angry with her, although one of my pet names for her incorporates her name.
She never uses my given name, and I only rarely use hers.
Almost never. Our personal made-up names for each other along with the usual pet names is how we address each other probably 99% of the time.
Almost never.
If I hear the outside door open while I’m in the shower, in a questioning tone (why, I don’t know - we have a very territorial dog).
In moments of imminent danger (i.e. attempting to merge into an occupied lane), somewhat more forcefully.
Or across a crowded room. Sometimes. Usually once for good manners, then I give that special whistle we use.
(I always refer to him by name in conversation with people who have met him, and never with people who have not, if that’s worth anything.)
in 32 yrs of marriage, my husband has called me by my 1st name maybe half a dozen times. I take this as a personal affront and will some day kill him for it.
My girlfriend and I rarely call each other by any names whatsoever. We seem to structure our sentences so that we do not need to. We both feel odd when we call each other by our names.
I call him by the short version of his full name. I never use the long version. He calls me by a nick - he is one of the very few people whom I will regularly accept a nick from - to the point that when he says my real name I think he is mad at me even when he is not.