We actually work at the same place, but rarely see each other there. We make contact at least once a day, in order to meet for lunch. Any other calls are work-related.
My kids call me when they get home from school. The younger one was starting to call a bit more often, but I asked him to make sure he only called me at work when it was really important.
There are two ladies here whose kids call them about 20 times a day, and another girl whose new husband calls about 10. I have no idea why.
I stay at home and I can’t remember the last time I called my husband at work. I’d have to pull out the yellow pages to get the number. We do email, probably once or twice a week. If I email him, it’s usually to ask him to pick something up on the way home (we have one car, so I’m often without transportation during the day). If he emails me, it’s usually to tell me to put something on our calendar or to ask how the kids are doing, if one is sick or something. Oh, I did email him yesterday to find out where he hid my son’s little bag of candy. Yeah, that was real important.
I don’t call because, yeah, I think it’s pretty rude. He’s being paid to work and I would feel stupid interupting for trivial reasons. I would have no problem for an occasional emergency (like the time I called my husband from the doctor’s office to tell him I was headed to the ER with our baby). Also, my husband is a physical therapist, so he has the type of job where he’s not really able to stop and chat…he generally has a patient (or several) in front of him who really doesn’t want to fork over a huge co-pay after listening to his PT chat about grocery lists. If he was a salaried employee at a desk, I wouldn’t worry about it as much.
I’ll call my wife on average once a day, usually toward the end of the work day to see (a) how her day was, (b) if we were going to have dinner together, and/or (c) to see if there was anything I could pick up from her if I was doing an errand afterwards. I’ll usually e-mail her once a day, too.
Unfortunately, she gets so many e-mails that it’s usually days before she reads them, and she gets so many phone calls that I’m more likely to see her late that night before she finally gets my message.
So do I call? You betcha. Do we ever actually talk? Rarely. 
I sometimes get called during meetings, but, if so, I just answer quietly, say I’m in a meeting and that I need to call back later.
Generally at least once a day she calls me or I call her.
We rarely speak on the phone unless there’s an urgency or I’m really really really bored.
But we do often use ICQ just to chat.
Usually we each call once a day.
If I am in a meeting I will let my cell ring (or vibrate) through. If I am talking with someone I will answer with a quick ‘can I call you back?’. She does the same If she is in a situation where it would be rude to stay on the line.
At the risk of sounding like a grumblebunny, I’m really surprised at the amount of people who call or are called by their spouses even once a day. What the heck is up with that? Maybe it’s a byproduct of my ultra-independent nature, but I’m having a hard time processing why people who live together need to chat during the work day.
Every frigging minute, it seems.
His desk is 3 feet from mine.
We don’t usually chat, but with 2 kids at the age where they have 2 or 3 weekly activities, appointments, events, etc. it is usually necessary to check in and make sure we both know where everyone needs to be and when later that day. Or we might need to coordinate shopping trips or errands or whatever. There just isn’t enough time while we’re trying to get out in the morning and who wants to talk about when the dry cleaning needs to be picked up when the kids are finally in bed and you want to relax?
Fearless Husband and I take our lunch breaks at the same time so we text during lunch, never actually call. I keep my phone on silent so the beeping or sound of my phone skittering across my desk doesn’t bother anyone else. Other than that, everything waits until he gets home.
I once worked for a man who had the bitchiest, highest-maintenance girlfriend I could imagine. She would call several times per shift and demand to talk to him (the boyfriend/manager) right away. Sometimes she would be working elsewhere on the store’s property and tell us to go find him if she could see his truck still there but he had stepped out of the store. She didn’t like me much because I refused to leave customers alone in the store to go hunt him down for her. :rolleyes:
I don’t have an office job so there are no meetings to interupt. I try to call home every night to say good night to the monsters. If I can I call home to say goodnight before she goes to bed. If I don’t call then she will. Every now and then we call at different times if something comes up.
Back when I was a cubicle dweller the woman next to me was constantly on the phone. She was in her early twenties and lived at home. She was never there more than an hour before she was on the phone with her mother. I never could figure out what they had to say to each other everyday. You just left the damn house, what could have happened since then?
How often do you call your SO?
I call here every time I need something. Honest, they don’t care at her office. I’m in there almost as much as she is. I stop by, call, or email her at work at least once a night. Often, it’s more. Her boss has no problem with this, and neither do we.
How often do they call you?
Fairly often. She emails more than calls, but I work 3rd shift in a small office by myself. It doesn’t hurt anything if she calls - actually, I spent time (on the clock) watching Office Space the other night. Obviously, I don’t have to do much all the time.
What constitutes a reason worthy of interupting you or them at work?
Usually, emails are just to chat. Phone calls are often to say something like “hey, open your email - I sent you that paper/picture of truck/anything and everything” or if someone is emailing regularly (every 5 minutes or so) and they quit without a reason why. It’s pretty much just to check and see that everything is ok
Am I out of line for thinking this is rude?
Not at all. Honestly, if I worked with more people, it would be different, or if she worked in a stricter office. If it is normal for them to be on the phone with family and such, no big deal, but in a professional setting, never (ftr - if I am meeting with my boss at the end of a shift, the phone goes off at 6:30. Same with her’s - boss meetings are not phonable times)
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Today we talked four times throughout the day, which is unusual but our central air conditioner bit the dust yesterday and we were coordinating repair/replacement/who’ll be home for the repairman type stuff. Normally once a day we touch base. Honestly though, I’m the one who answers the phone where I work and I wouldn’t begin to get aggravated with a calling spouse unless it they called over 5-6 times a day everyday . Family members calls are usually priority.
Fixed the title 'cause it was getting on my nerves.
We only call when we have a legitimate reason to call (traffic is stinking - don’t wait supper for me, etc.). We IM and email much more often for the chatty stuff. I don’t get people who call their SO all the live-long day either, and I especially don’t care for people who do that who have to go through a receptionist each time. Your whim is someone else’s work (I got that from a book a long time ago, and I liked it).
Rank hath its privileges 
When I’ve had SOs they would sometimes come to pick me up, but it had been established in advance. I’d never call them; they might call ahead to let me know they were on the way.
My aunt and uncle used to manage his family’s boutiques. One day, she got a call, spent several minutes on the phone and after finishing the call said “hey XYZ, that eldest son of yours has gotten himself in trouble with the teacher, go and get his ass out of the fire!” One of the saleswomen, who had been there for about six weeks, said “eeexcuse me, are you two by any means married?” “Yep, for fifteen years and three sons.” Their general behavior was professional enough that people who didn’t know they were married didn’t guess.
I generally leave the house at 5:40 and go to bed before 9:00. Needless to say she doesn’t have the same sleep schedule. A call at 9 AM or so to wish her a ‘good morning’ seems to be in line with keeping a level of good harmony.
No phone goes unanswered in my office, and I’d estimate that 30% of the calls I take (for others) on any given day are personal. It makes me nuts. We have email, everyone has a cell phone, and frankly I just don’t feel that there’s any need to call a person’s office three or four (let alone more!) times a day. A lot of the managers in my office have SAHM wives, and some of them call constantly. I’m sure they’re bored, but I find myself wondering “has it honestly been so long since you’ve had a job that you’ve completely forgotten the part where there’s actual work stuff that’s supposed to be happening?”
My previous SO was a frequent caller until I broke him of it by explaining that the “no phone goes unanswered” rule meant that 1. I’m always unlikely to be able to chat for more than a minute, and 2. if I’m away from my desk or on the phone, then someone else has to stop what they’re doing to answer my personal call. It pisses me off, so I prefer not to do it to anyone else.
We did call each other about once a day, and very occasionally more often if there was something that required more urgent attention. We emailed all the time, though.
depends but probably on average about once per day. Usually it’s because of errands, something needs to get done, the bambina’s have something up, etc.
We don’t call to chat, see how someone’s day been, etc.
We very rarely talk on the phone, but we do e-mail each other from time to time. Never just to chat, though, only if there’s some information one of us needs to pass on to the other- I’ll be home late, what do you want from takeout, etc. I will call him if there is a bad accident on the route I take to work (which seems to happen every few weeks). He works for a press office, and will find out about stuff like that as soon as it happens, so I always call to let him know I wasn’t involved.