The point is that the struggle against racism, though it has been imposed upon blacks and is responsible for the fact that black people have been disadvantaged socially and economically for centuries in this country, is being made more difficult due to the large number of blacks who are projecting a negative and threatening image to the rest of society.
It is quite understandable that some black people may be loathe to adopt qualities that they associate with whites (I’ve known more than one black person who’s come in for criticism from their own for “acting white”), but wasn’t Martin Luther King’s goal to reach a time in this country when blacks were treated no differently than anyone else? And who was this anyone else that he wanted blacks to be treated the same as? The answer, obviously, is the nation’s white population.
So if the goal of the elimination of racism is that we should all treat each other equally and not make distinctions based on race, how is not a stumbling block to that for a sizable number of the minority population to be deliberately adopting lifestyle choices in the manner of dress, speech and criminal behavior that sets it at odds with the white or majority population.
There is a reason for the “When in Rome do as the Romans do” adage. People are better accepted and better treated when they behave as everyone else does. So if blacks want to live in a country where they are able to buy houses and find jobs and date or marry whoever they want – in effect, being treated no differently than anyone else – doesn’t it make sense then that they live the same as everyone else? How can you set yourself apart from everyone else by deliberately adopting behavior that they find threatening or at the very least off-putting, and then expect them to welcome you with open arms and treat you no differently than anyone else?
I remember a conversation I had back in the early nineties with a Hispanic kid who worked at the same place I did. He was a good kid but everything about the way he dressed and walked and talked and comported himself virtually shouted “gang-banger.” He was complaining to me one day about how everyone out in everyday society seemed to react negatively to him and seemed not to like him, based on nothing more than the way he looked. I said, “Well, you dress and talk and act the way you do so your peers will think you’re all gangsta and badass and not to be messed with, and therefore one of them, right?” He answered yes, that was right. I said "So then why do expect everyone outside your group to be oblivious to those messages and not think that you are all gangsta and badass and not feel threatened by you? They think the same thing about you that your buddies do, only to them it says bad things and makes them feel threatened. He immediately saw the point and told me I should have been a psychiatrist or something…that he’d never looked at it that way before.
I left that company shortly thereafter but I saw him again several years later when I went back for a visit. He had changed completely and wondered if I even recognized him. After I told him I did, he said that the talk we had really opened his eyes on set him on the right track. He had given up not only the way he dressed and acted and the friends he had then, but he had gotten married and started working hard and being responsible and now he was one of the supervisors at the company where I used to work. Needless to say, I was walking on air when I left that day.
But the point isn’t to say “look at what a cool thing I did;” rather it’s to illustrate the fact that when you look and act all badass and project the image of someone who’s doing everything he can to thumb his nose at the mainstream of society, all you are doing is putting people off and throwing up obstacles to being accepted in that society.
Now, that’s all well and good if estrangement from society is your goal. But in terms of combatting racism, part of the solution is going to have to come from the black community even though they certainly didn’t ask for the discrimination they’ve been subjected to, and they’re going to have to start working to discourage or eliminate the negative behavior that has become emblematic of certain aspects of black culture. It’s an unfortunate fact of life that one bad apple spoils the whole bunch, and as long as there are so many bad apples functioning as the public face of the black community, racism is going to be a significant problem no matter how much the rest of society tries to eliminate it.