I seem to observe in my own life and experience of myself and others, that there is such a thing as front morality and depth morality. Front morality motivates a person to do or not to do things that are visible or potentially visible to others; depth morality is what makes you feel good or bad in doing an action.
Talking about myself, I would never kill anyone for the sake of gain, that for me is depth morality. Front morality for me as an example is to not cheat on my tax or to stop at the intersection on the red light.
I suspect that some people might have very little depth morality, but a lot of front morality. Do I have a lot of depth morality myself compared to my front morality?
I used to think and still do that Japanese who commit suicide upon being caught in some shameful public offense are possessed of a lot of front morality but little depth morality. Maybe I don’t know their culture well enough, and therefore I should not judge them.
We cannot talk about morality without going into religion. No doubts religion is the teacher of a lot of morality. But notwithstanding the religious commitment of people they can be very immoral, for example, Mafia people are very Catholic but obviously they are into a host of immoral activities.
What about myself, really? I think I am very cynical about morality. What I have learned so far in life is that given the opportunity to do something which I consider against dept morality, the occasion namely to do something to one’s own personal gain without being discovered, people will succumb to the opportunity.
For myself, luckily or unluckily I have not been exposed to such opportunities for gain without discovery by others. But I have seen others who are of very good repute, once exposed to opportunities do not think twice of taking advantage.
Let us consider the following scenario:
I come home one night and the whole house was empty, my wife and kids all out. On entering our bedroom I see a lusciously beautiful girl lying in the bed my wife and I share, completely naked. She tells me that she wants me and even writes a paper postdated that she has never been in the vicinity of our home on that occasion.
Shall I make love with her? I have never been given such an opportunity. Honestly I don’t know what I would do exposed to such an opportunity. I am a postgraduate Catholic, my own label of my religious commitment. Suppose I don’t take advantage of the opportunity, and then I die and have to face Jesus. What will he tell me?
“Well done, good and faithful servant!”, or “You stupid dimwitted dumbbell!”. And most probably I would tell him, whatever HIs words to me, I don’t want complications in my life, besides for any action I do I have to live with it; living with myself is the hardest part.
Susma Rio Sep