I disagree that you need someone else to do it, if you wan’t a cut-a-hair-in-midair type sharp blade, then you probably need some fairly specialised skills. But I wager with a half decent set of stones and half an hour, I could teach anybody to freehand sharpen their knives to at least factory sharpness.
The only real trick to get when sharpening with a stone is to keep a consistant angle as you move the knife along the stone. Sure, you can use a guide like this or this, but I’ve never seen the need for one.
Now, every source I’ve read says that you should sharpen away from the body, as if you were trying to shave a thin sliver off the stone. Personally, I always felt it was more intuitive to sharpen towards the body but I haven’t noticed much difference either way. Either way you do it, you wan’t to move it in one clean stroke from the base of the knife to the tip, keeping constant contact and pressure between the blade and the stone. German knives are recommended to be sharpened at 25 degrees, japanese knives as low as 15. The lower you go, the sharper your edge is but the quicker you lose it.
Now, my personal trick to keeping the edge stable is to have a bright light shining from above. The reflection of the light on the ceiling is an indicator of what angle the knife is at. Fold a piece of paper in half and half again and you have a 22.5 degree edge. Determine where the reflection is and note that point. When you sharpen, always try to keep the bright spot as near to that point as possible. Every time you sharpen, you get slightly better until you can tell by feel and then you can sharpen with your eyes closed if you have to.
Start on one side and keep sharpening until what’s called a burr is formed. This happens when the edge is ground down and meets the other side. It’s a tiny lip of metal which you should be able to feel with your finger. Once you achieve a burr over the entire length of your blade, then your ready to switch to the other side and sharpen again until you get a burr. Voila, a sharpened knife.
The first time you do it, it may take as long as 1/2 an hour since your creating an entirely new edge. Every time after that, It takes me about 5 minutes to get a burr after 1 - 3 month of regular use.
Maintain your edge using a steel. Ostensibly, you should do it every time before you use your knife but it’s a habit that you have to train into otherwise it becomes a major PITA.
This was an invaluable resource for me when I first started sharpening: eCGI. Read it as it goes into much more detail than I do.