I have no idea what he was thinking; I’m moving it to IMHO.
Apologies. I saw cooking and read the first few replies (that seemed to be talking about cooking and suggestions on what to cook) and I figured CS.
My mistake.
What ever he was thinking, I’m sure it was Idle.
That’s really strange - who doesn’t like cantaloupe?
This is what I was thinking too. It’s not so much that he’s intentionally cooking things the OP doesn’t like, as cooking things he likes which the OP happens not to like. I’m the same way - rather than asking someone to cook me something they don’t want to, I cook it myself; if I didn’t, I’d never get to have any since asking someone to cook me something they won’t eat makes me feel guilty. The difference is that I generally end up only cooking for myself this way, since “would you like some __ too?” gets a negative answer.
Either he needs to get to the point where he, for example, puts aside some of the spaghetti sauce pre-currying so the OP can have it curryless, or the OP needs to get in the habit of asking him to do it before he gets to that step of cooking.
I vote for this.
I do virtually all of the cooking in our house. I try to cook things that everyone likes. Occasionally I’ll cook something that one person likes a lot, but someone else doesn’t like. (For example, there’s one sausage dish my kids love but my wife hates. I still make it because the kids would be disappointed if they NEVER got it again, and my wife knows that.)
However, I’m MUCH less likely to cook things that I don’t like. If I don’t like it, it almost never gets made. So if my wife ever decided to cook (HA) I wouldn’t be at all surprised if she made something I didn’t like.
Can you say ‘passive-aggressive?’
vow: my condolences to you and your husband on his misfortune
I’d start cooking with onions.
j/k
It sounds to me like you cut him a lot of slack, about a lot of stuff. Maybe this is a way to try to rile you.
Men don’t have special hearing. As in “he’s just not hearing you.” Or different memories than we do. I would only be able to see this in one of two ways: either he doesn’t care about what you like and don’t like, or he really is trying to gig you. By your not responding he might even have to up the ante.
People treat you the way you teach them to treat you. I doubt if he would treat somebody else this way (he eats other people’s Sloppy Joes) and I would ask him to give you at least that amount of consideration.
And don’t worry about it if he makes it a big deal. It IS a big deal and he’s not acting right.
(I notice you’re in a long-term relationship, as I am. Sometimes the older we get the weirder we get. Nip it in the bud.)
Just noticed that my post seems to be the exact opposite of what VOW said. It wasn’t deliberate, I just didn’t read each and every post. (That’ll teach ME.) All I can tell you is from my own point of view and really, I’d be more apt to throw the third plate of curry at the wall.
I freaking love Thai food.
My husband feels like crap after eating Thai food in most restaurants. (He thinks it’s how oily most restaurant Thai food can be.)
He asks me what I want to eat? I automatically say, “Thai!”
Then I go :smack:.
I think it might well be that he’s thinking, “huh, I haven’t had chicken cacciatore in a while…” - but who knows. Try feeding him “I love _____” messages and see if that helps.
Next time he makes tomato sauce and chicken with curry, get out a bowl of cereal and eat it instead. Don’t make a big deal about it. If he asks what you’re doing, say, “Yeah, I’m not a big fan of curry, so instead of insisting that you cater to me, I’m just going to eat a bowl of cereal instead.”