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That’s right, have contempt for those, including moderates, who disagree with you. Great strategy there, guys.
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I’ve looked and looked for a reasonable argument against same-sex marriage. They all seem to boil down to some combination of:
1.God says gay sex is wrong
2.The existence of gay marriages demeans straight marriages
3.Straights will become gay if gay marriage is allowed
4.Straight marriages can produce children, gay marriages can’t
5.Gay sex is icky
We can’t have laws based on the teaching of a specific religion, so 1 isn’t a good reason. And some of the same religions that condemn homosexuality also condemn interfaith marriages, but our laws allow interfaith marriages.
2 doesn’t make sense- how is the validity of my marriage changed by something that someone who my husband and I don’t even know does? And marriage is demeaned by celebrities and others marrying and divorcing on a whim, but we don’t have any laws against that.
3 goes against our current scientific understanding of what makes people gay or straight- it makes as much sense as making public-health laws aimed at reducing people’s exposure to night air.
Straight marriages that can’t produce children (because one or both partners are infertile or too old to have children) are allowed, so producing children is not the purpose of straight marriage. In fact, cousins are allowed to marry in some states only if the marriage is not able to produce children. I think the idea that “marriage exists to produce children” is much more demeaning to marriage than gay marriage could ever be- marriage is so much more than pairing up to breed for some of us.
Gay sex is icky- so is old people sex, and we allow old people to get or stay married. And what’s ickier than thinking about your parents or grandparents having sex? But your parents and grandparents are allowed to stay married, or to remarry if they are divorced or widowed. Thinking about your grown children having sex is icky for some parents, but people are allowed to get married while their parents are still alive.
No explanation of why anyone would be so opposed to gay marriage has ever made much sense to me. From that, the analogy (that seems quite obvious to me) to interracial marriage, and hearing some of the rhetoric about gay marriage, I conclude that people who oppose gay marriage do so because they are bigoted. I respect your right to be bigoted, but I don’t think you have a right to use the law to force everyone else to go along with your bigotry.