I agree! Do you have any vacation time coming? Is there any chance that you can take some time off and just couch potato for a while? I know when I went through my break up (almost 10 years ago now), I was lucky enough to be able to take quite a bit of time off.
I wish we had some concrete things for you to do to feel more energized! 
Go looking at motorcycles. Or take a bike in the country or wherever you live.
Get a decent bottle of wine and go on a picnic somewhere with your dog. No dog? maybe its time for one! Or a cat: they are lo-maintenance.
Maybe its time for a new mattress. To get rid of the bad vibes!
Maybe its just time for a whole new living arrangement. Or job. Anything. Get some tunes that are out of the ordinary for you and dance to them! Nekked! Put some shrimp on the barbie and invite a neighbor. Meet up with some Dopers.
You may be right.
Nope. No vacation time. Very busy at work.
Once I sell this house – I’m not putting it on the market till after Christmas – things will improve. As it is I’m stuck with all the bills here, and paying child support. I’m broke, tired, and yeah probably somewhat depressed.
Looking forward to 2014.
With all due respect to David Bromberg:
Some gal told me today
I was wasting my life away
It’s bad how I spend my time
I never make a dime
But, I like to sleep late in the morning
I don’t like to wear no shoes
I make love to the wimmin’ while I’m livin’
Get drunk on a bottle of booze
Dang, well here’s to a much improved year for 2014. Wish one of us had something to help now.
You’re in a depressing situation. Soon-to-be-ex is already off starting her new life while you’re stuck dealing with the aftermath. Is she going to get some of the money from the sale of the house? Is she helping to ready it for sale? If you don’t want her to, then are you choosing a kind of martyrdom over actively getting on with your own? Staying in place is draining; it’s like pressing the gas and brake peddles at the same time.
Take your foot off the brake and let yourself move forward. You’re broke—then why not take some dance lessons at the local community center? That way you can interact with other people and hold a woman in your arms with no strings attached. Call the library or someplace and find out what clubs are available in your area. Most are little or no cost. Volunteer. Every minute spent doing something else is one less minute spent brooding.
At night, turn off all electronics. You’ll get so bored you’ll fall asleep in self defense.
You can do this! Start filling your life with “2014 stuff” now.
Yes. Not much choice in this one.
No. She pretty much bailed and left me to deal with everything.
Dude, you’re Canadian - we’re all Vitamin D deficient.
No, seriously, I had my levels checked a couple of years ago, and I’m deficient in spite of my mostly healthy diet and being outside all the time. It’s kind of a fact of life for Canadians.
I think that’s a big part of it, too - you’re going through a major life upheaval, and stress can manifest in just about any way you can think of. Doing your best to bring some enjoyment to your life is a very, very good idea.
We’re all pulling for you! 
Does anyone have a reputable site that correlates lethargy with vitamin D deficiency. I looked briefly and cant seem to find one.
You’re grasping at straws I think. There’s no Magic Pill thatsa gonna perk up your life (well, maybe there are, but you dont wanna go there believe me …)
The good part is: its situational and once the house is sold you can pick up and move on.
The bad part is: you have to wait to get your piece of that pie.
Meanwhile your life is sliding by. I just dig in and clean something when Im in a funk. Can you start getting the house market-ready and get a jump on it? Good luck. Been there too.
That’s an excellent idea. Throw out or sell what you don’t need, and if there are things you want to keep but that you won’t need in the next few months, box them up and put them in a rented storage locker. De-clutter the house, and give it a good scrub, top to bottom.
Do a little bit each evening now, and you’ll have the house ready for market after Christmas. And you may tire yourself out enough that you can get back on a regular sleep schedule.
Yeah. I don’t seem to have the energy to do much though. I don’t think I’m depressed; I’m just lethargic and when I can sleep in I do so in spades - noon today.
Anyway, with little time off work this whole situation is overwhelming, and maybe that’s the main problem.
I’m barely keeping up with the bills here and have no money to put things in storage or anything. I’ll get through it. Next year will be better.
Not exactly what you’re looking for, but I did find this:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/vitamin-d/NS_patient-vitamind/DSECTION=evidence
I think your situational issues are probably more the problem than vitamin D, but it could certainly be a contributing factor. Wouldn’t hurt to try, anyway.
If you are in a medical MJ state, I have heard that it does wonders with mild depression. I forget where I read it, though…
(Ceck my location.) Anyway, I stopped smoking MJ decades ago. I have nothing against it, and have no problem with what other people do. Most of my friends partake.
My problem is, that it makes me somewhat paranoid. It increases my heart rate and is the antithesis of relaxation for me.
I don’t think I’m depressed. I just can’t f@#$% sleep.
I agree with you; I think there are probably other factors exacerbating things (like you probably are low on Vitamin D, and that’s not helping), but I think your main problem is the stress of such a major life upheaval that is a long-term thing and isn’t going to be over any time soon. I wish I lived near you; I’d love to come over and help you get your house ready to move to take a bit off your plate.
May I suggest the “10 minute rule”? There are times when, as you describe above, I’m just dead, and can’t barely make it in the door from work to collapse on the couch. But I set a timer and make myself do something for no more than 10 minutes. The rule is, if after 10 minutes, I STILL feel like crap, I let myself quit.
Sometimes I get encouraged and get a ton of stuff done, and sometimes I only get 10 minutes worth of stuff done. But a person can get a lot done in 10 minutes, so it does help.
Sleeping in a location I’m not used to have helped me somewhat. Like sleeping on the couch instead of the bed.
Melatonin or Nyquil also seems to help once in a while.
Some physical activity in the morning could help. Even if it feels quite unpleasant the first few weeks you try it.
Yes, it’s a bitch. Changing longstanding unhealthy habits always is.
Sometimes you just need some chemical help to reset your sleep clock and get back on track. I can see you’re just frazzled from it all.
Can you ask your doctor for an Rx for something like Ambien (sleeping pill) for a short term? Then start getting to bed before 10pm and maybe you will wake up refreshed and with a different perspective. The Balm of Sleep and all … Good luck!