I can't join a gym because people suck (long)

Okay, I’ll take some blame too- I have slight anger issues and high expectations (so I’m told). So, I haven’t belonged to a gym in probably over five years and have been working out on and off in my basement. The past three months I’ve really been on a roll so it sure would be nice to have a wide variety of professional quality equipment. I see that a local commercial gym has pretty low rates and after start-up fees is only $20 a month.

I print up a coupon for a free one-day pass that the gym e-mailed to me and cut it out along the dotted lines as that’s the usual protocol for coupons. I enter the gym and tell the man behind the front counter that doesn’t smile or greet me in any way that I’d like to use my pass. He tells me, “You shouldn’t have cut the coupon out.” I tell him that no where does it say to not cut out the coupon and that there are dotted lines around it. He then says, “yeah, but now I can’t see your email address and since it’s in black and white it looks like it’s copied”. Now I so badly want to say, “so fucking what, dipshit? You realize I can make copies in color and that email addresses are free and I could request and print out hundreds of these out if I want, right? Maybe you should take up your complaint up with your gym having dotted lines around coupons and no notice to bring the whole sheet of paper in with someone representing the gym and not the customer?” But no, my wife keeps reminding me I have to be like the Buddha and not argue all the time, so I keep my mouth shut.

Now I’m in a dandy mood for a workout. Not really. This little encounter really pissed me off. Not just the stupidity, but the overall lack of friendliness to a potential new customer and this attitude (overall tone of voice and mannerisms) that exuded the message “I’m hot crap around here and I can talk to people any way I like. I work in a gym!”

So my cut out coupon seems to be good enough and after looking at my license and having me sign in he lets me get my workout in. I shit you not, I am the only one in the entire gym that has a towel. NO ONE is using a towel as they lay their sweaty heads and backs on equipment and some even put their shoes on the edge of benches. Okay, their problem, no big deal. I’m using mine and that’s what matter most. Besides, I’m the Buddha.

So, I go to get a pair of dumbbells in the weight increment I need, but someone is doing lateral raises RIGHT IN FRONT OF THE DUMBBELL RACK! He’ll be gone in a few moments, right? Nope. He’s using light weight in front of the heavy dumbbells and he’s going for distance. Plenty of room to step back away from it, but why should he give a shit about anyone else? My head is going to explode.

After my shoulders and triceps workout, I walk around to look at the equipment. Hmm, how many squat racks? Lets look. Only two. The one where two youngsters have five plates on a bar and are taking turns with a marathon session of shrugging (that they abandoned loaded up when they finished) and the one where someone is doing bent over rows with 20lbs. on a bar.

It would be really nice to do certain movements like thigh curls and use the Butt Blaster and seated calf raises that I don’t have the equipment for at home, but having to drive and pay to get aggravated by people with no consideration for others will most likely just put me in a pissy mood for hours. I’m working on being like a Buddha and not letting these sort of things get to me, but in the mean time I’ll suck up working out at home with less than optimal equipment. Because people suck.

Oh well, that’s my lame rant. Just had to get it out.

Whoa boy. If you have anger issues about people being annoying, inconsiderate jerks, a commercial gym is definitely not the place for you. You’d stroke out.

If he does that in a commercial gym, they’d pull his membership.

Dude, chill out.

No excuse for the 'tude from the person who’s supposed to welcome you to the gym.

To the guy doing lat raises in front of the weight rack, Miss Manners says the appropriate response is, “Excuse me. I need to get to the weights.” Even if he’s in the middle of his routine. Because, like the woman who is busily inspecting every item on the shelf in the supermarket, he/she probably isn’t aware that her ass is blocking progress. A reasonable person would say, “Oh, I’m sorry.” to your gentle reminder and move out of the way. End of conflict.

The folks using the two squat racks have as much right to use the equipment as you do, and you should either go on to something else or wait patiently until they are done. The fact that they don’t lift as much weight as you do is completely irrelevant. If it does bother you that they are beginners, or not as fit as you are, then you really do need to focus on finding more Zen in your life cause a public gym is first-come, first-served.

You might also consider if lifting weights is contributing to your anger issues. My husband was a serious weightlifter in his late teens/early 20s. While he had a body to die for, it came with a price. He’d occasionally get so angry that he’d have to go punch a wall with his bare hand. He finally realized that lifting weight without doing some serious lung-stretching cardio to balance out all that testosterone was making him a bit…um, testy. (Aside: Does “testy” come from “testosterone?”)

If they’d pull his membership, he wouldn’t need to.

Au contraire. As he’s being wheeled out on a stretcher, they’re thinking, “It’ll be MONTHS before that guy realizes he’s still being EFTd for monthly dues.”

I doubt it was the weight lifting that caused the anger … off the cuff, sounds more like what they call “roid rage”. :wink:

If you have “high expectations” you shouldn’t go looking for the cheapest gym you could find. You can’t have it both ways.

I’m not so sure that would be the end of the conflict but the beginning of one. I have a feeling plenty of people would look over at me annoyed and respond “you wanna hold on 'till the end of my set, pal?”, or something similar. It’s not worth it to potentially start out on the wrong foot with people. They’ll be the next guy and the next guy after that working out in front of the dumbbell rack too.

How does that same right not apply to the guy working out in front of the dumbbell rack? Doing bent over rows with weight so light it can easily be picked up from the ground is also blocking progress.

Huh? I never complained that someone doesn’t use the weight I do. I complained that they are doing movements that don’t require the use of a squat rack at the squat rack.

I’m not out of control and I don’t punch walls. I said slight anger issues. I doubt it’s caused by exercise.

Good point. Some other more expensive gyms in my area also offer one free workout. Maybe I’ll give it a shot. One in particular that I’m thinking of seems to have a more mature clientele.

You’re lucky! I can’t find a gym where people suck! [rimshot]

This always pisses me off! It’s one of those things where the person just assumes he’s the only person in the world. WTF? You are obviously blocking things. I bet you’re the kind of person who likes to hold conversations in the middle of a doorway.

Or, you say excuse me, and they move over just long enough for your to grab your weights-- then position themselves back in front of the weights again. Hey, you are always going to be in the way there. Always!!

This annoys me more than almost anything else at the gym.

These fucking lobotomy victims can’t comprehend that other people might also like to use the weights, and that if they step four or five feet back from the weight racks, then everyone can move around them without a problem. It’s like the assholes at the airport baggage claim who insist on standing right next to the conveyor, and then get all pissy when i push through them to get my bag.

I’ve seen plenty of expensive gyms full of douchebag employees and asshole members.

Our local YMCA has a perfectly good weight room, the employees are incredibly friendly, and just about everyone who works out there is also cheerful and amiable. It costs my wife and me $43 a month, for two of us.

You said it, brother (the doorway thing too – grrrr!)

I also hate it when a person or a group grabs all the dumbells in a particular range – the 30s, 35s, 40s, 45s and 50s, say, 'cause they’re doing some kind of special graduated series of sets and then take 20 minutes to do them. This means if I want the 40s, I can’t even adjust and move on by using the 35s or 45s. If you must do that sort of thing, do it when the gym in not crowded.

x-ray vision, I don’t see anything wrong with any of your complaints. I’m glad you were able to stay calm, although I would have said something to the guy in front of the weight rack. At my perfectable good community recreation center, membership is $75 a year (it used to be free); I do run into some assholes but those are everywhere no matter what the cost.

Beautiful rant. I feel your pain, Brother.

What you need to do is get in a good workout at home to relieve some of your stress before you go to the gym. Problem solved!

It must be a pain in the ass to be a man. Seriously, asking somebody politely if you can move past them is “the beginning” of a conflict?

This makes me especially glad that I’m able to hit the gym during off hours. It’s bad enough, then, but 100x better than, say, 5:30PM.

It’s funny you should post this just now. I was just re-reading the responses in this thread and was considering responding to PunditLisa that her advise to interrupt a guy while he was in the middle of a set would probably be incident free 10 out of 10 times if you’re a girl. It would probably even come with a quick step getting out of the way while getting an “oh, sorry.” That won’t happen 10 out of 10 times if you’re a guy making the request. At least not in NJ.

Forget it, Jake, it’s New Jersey.