I don't really know much about my father's side of the family...

But I found out a lot more tonight. Well, sort of.

I was doing some research through my school’s library databases, and when I disconnected from my ISP, there was a message on my voice mail. It was just this woman, who left her name (that I didn’t recognize) and her phone number along with “please call me”. I wondered for a minute if it was about one of the resumes I’d sent out, but realized that it was a local number and there haven’t been many local job openings recently. Since all my bills are up to date and I knew it wasn’t a bill collector, I called.

Turns out that she’s my father’s cousin, who happened to be looking someone else up in the phone book and saw my name (my last name is very unusual. Typically I’m the only one in the phone book when I move to a new city, unless there’s a known relative living there. If there is another one, s/he is generally related somehow). Well, her maiden name was the same as my last name, so it caught her eye and she called.

So we talked for a while, and we’re going to have lunch one day. I’ve never met anyone on that side of the family other than my father’s sister, her family, and my father’s mother (by the time I was born, she had divorced and remarried, so, while I knew that grandfather, I never knew my father’s father).

It’s strange to have contact with a person that’s related to you but you don’t know. There were moments I didn’t know what to say - but she was so excited to talk to me that it still makes me grin.

Wow, that’s really cool. I’ve had a couple out of the blue connections which have given me lots of new information in the past couple months. It’s pretty weird to think about all the effort you can put in and not gain much and then do nothing and gain a lot.

Have fun!

My mom is an orphan and until I was about ten years old, I had no relatives at all on her side of the family so far as I knew but she somehow found her sister living in Pennsylvania with her husband and kids. It was a joy to her to get to know them and I myself had a good time getting to know my new cousins for a while as well.

It eventually soured for us, but those first few months were very interesting. I hope your situation stays at the first level. It’s always great meeting new people… especially family.