I do see something wrong with a man tickling a girl. But this has goten out of hand and I wont be apart of it anymore. its not that big of a deal. You think i’m wrong I think your wrong.
The end.
The reporting of child abuse and believing victims is something that has been going on for only a decade or two.
And I really don’t think I have a “fucked up obsession” because I don’t want just anybody and everybody getting touchy feely with me.
Good lord.
I was a camp councillor (and still can’t spell it) for a number of years. The group I worked with most often was this age range. It’s good to know that some people here would be glad to threaten me for doing my job and playing with the kiddies. Or for carrying their daughter cause the poor kid was too tired to walk, and almost in tears.
Oh for crying out loud!
My guess-the girl didn’t say anything because she felt silly. She probably feel self-conscious-she’s developing, at that age, you know, and it made her feel very uncomfortable.
Snugglebear, you have got to be kidding me. It is NOT SEXUAL ASSAULT!!! You have some serious issues. Get a grip already.
SDMB can be a tough place if a glimpse of ignorance is flashed. Most examples haven’t been as cinematic as our esteemed representatives from M’boro have shown. My suggestion? Lurk on these boards for a while, get a feel for how it works, and how respect and facts are valued commodities. We all are here to fight ignorance, after all.
Unpopular positions are argued valiantly and factually daily here, and on occasion, you can see opinions changed right before your eyes.
Clarity is important. If other posters are unable to understand your point, it is as good as lost.
Don’t be so defensive. If a point is not getting through, bring more information to the table, or try explaining it by a different tact.
Emulate the master. Read Cecil’s books again. All of them. If you can put forth convincing points with disarming wit, you will go far here.
Snuggle Bear never siad that it was “SEXUAL ASSAULT!!” Only that it could be viewed as such and shouldn’t be taken lightly. Snuggle bear and I just do not think that a man should tickle a little girl unless he is her father or someone close… And I dont think that a “cool older brother” is someone I would want hanging around our little girl.
I think that it is sad that we in this world, time, and place that I live in that we do have to worry about that but it is something that we at least where I live do have to worry about.
NurseCarmen, Thank you. I can see what you mean and I think you are right. My spelling and grammer make it hard for me to form thoughts on paper like I do in my head and in trying to clear things up they seemed to have been muddled more. Which is why I left it at that. I see no point in trying to keep a fight going when really there never should have been one in the frist place.
There is a way around that. You could copy and paste your text into Word, so it catches spelling errors, like "siad " for “said” or “frist” for “first” and so on. Though I don’t always do so, I find that it often helps me make myself clearer than my natural spelling abilities would allow for. I’m not stupid by any measure, I just don’t spell very well(although, the more I use the internet, the better my spelling seems in comparison to others’), and I suspect that is the truth in your case as well.
Yes that is the case. I start typing and not using a spell checker and then thats where I get myself into it. Thanks for the tip i’ll have to try that. I have never been able to spell well. It comes with being ADHD with a few other add ons my parents gave me 
but what the hey I do my best.
Thank you Elfkin
You are correct. I believe the term she used was Aggravated Sexual Battery. There’s a difference in believing that it was inappropriate behavior than accusing him of being a liar and guilty of a crime.
ummm Snuggle bear is not a girl… And he did not accuse him of anything only siad that it could be taken as something that it wasn’t. No one has accuse him of anything. A few have siad that they dont think it was right. Others have siad that it could have been taken as something that it wasn’t.
Sorry it took so long, but here’s a little bit of clarification.
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[li]It was in the driveway, with other people around, on the way from my car to the house[/li][li]I didn’t “hold her down” and tickle her, I snuck up behind her and tickled her… Total tickle time: approx. 10 seconds[/li][li]She didn’t tell me to stop… she giggled the same way she did the other 100 times I’ve tickled her[/li][li]I don’t “hang out” or “hang around” with them. Sometimes I play with them when my little bro brings them over[/li][/ul]
I’m sure there are a lot of things I missed, but it’s late (this thread got longer then I anticipated), and I don’t feel like going through the whole thread over and addressing everyone. If there are any specific issues or questions you want me to answer, I will be able to do so in the morning. Thanks for the input y’all.
Chekmate…
In the interest of summarizing all the opinions I find valid…
bap Just don’t do it again. You didn’t do anything wrong.
I’m in college, and I wrestled through high school. Now I referee and occasionally compete in the senior division. I’ve got spikey hair, sideburns, nice eyes and a teddy-bearish lineman build. I also lose a lot and laugh about it.
As you may imagine, I’m somewhat popular with the little sisters on grounds of being nonthreatening, so I totally understand the situation you’re in. It sucks, and I sympathize. Chalk it up to experience, have a beer and lament the fact that you have to be too careful sometimes.
Several years ago I lost a relationship with my sister and her family because she accused me of molesting her child right in front of her. Our families were involved in a canoe trip. At one point near the base of a river cascade our three canoes were lashed together between two large rocks. My three year old neice wanted to get into another canoe. While I secured the caone to the rock with one hand, I assisted her entry into another canoe by lifting her butt. My wife received her in another canoe. It didn’t help that another couple, my 20 year old nephew and girl friend from Europe were lagging behind earlier on the trip . My sister’s son, 5 years old, asked what they were doing. I explained that they were K I S S I N G (spelling out the letters). He thought that was funny. My sister was pissed off about that. So after that trip my sister told everyone I molested her daughter and although we live in the same town, I haven’t seen her or my neice and nephew since. Very painful for me. Under no circumstances will I ever touch period a girl other than my daughters. I will not allow myself to remain in a room with only one girl. Nothing has devastated me more than this accusation and estrangement from my sister and her children since the death of my mother when I was 15. Fortunately I’ve gotten a lot of support from the rest of my extended family ,immediate family and friends.
I’ve heard that most molestations actually are done by a “father or someone close”. If that’s true, we would conclude that no adult man should ever tickle any underage girl.
Sorry Checkmate. I reread my posts and I didn’t exactly say what I ment too. :smack:
Yes and no father should ever touch his girl,should never be alone with her,never change her diaper etc.
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Yeah i guess all those times my mom held me and cuddled with me it was sexual abuse,who knows what you’d think of the fact that until the age of 10 i’d often sleep with my parents in their bed.
:rolleyes:
Does all contact have to be sexual? Is there such a thing as innocent affection?