Let me clarify the situation a little.
I have 2 employees.
Employee 1 has worked for me for 12 years.
The only reason I even knew that employee 2 was pregnant was that employee 1 asked for a few days off 5 months in advance and I approved it and then employee 2 piped up “Oh-she can’t take that time off, I’ll be on maternity leave”.
I periodically asked employee 2 what her plans were for her maternity-she said “well, my Ob/Gyn told me I’d probably miss 6 weeks or 8 if I have a C-section”.
She continued to offer no further information. I had to ask her about her due date, and when she expected to be off. I also asked her about child care and she told me that she and the friend (who is really more like a relative) were sharing the same childcare provider.
When I hired the friend, my employee said she was going to stop working then because her OB had told her to rest. I asked if she knew if and when she planned to come back and she said she could not predict. With her last paycheck before leave, she also included a note requesting all sick leave and vacation accrued be paid out as a lump sum with that paycheck, which I did, even though it did strain my finances.
We expected to hear something about when the baby was born but only found out when we were talking to the friend and found out that the child was born. We then sent a gift and card with the friend and got a report back from the friend that it was delivered and was appreciated. I know the friend was in tough with her because I saw pictures of the 2 children together.
When the childcare fell through for the friend, I asked if she knew what employee 2’s plans were. She stated that employee 2 was arranging alternative childcare and planned to be back “sometime in September”.
Meanwhile, employee 1, who I cannot afford to lose, basically told me that if she had to work by herself for 6 weeks she would quit. (The office can run with one employee for a few days but it cannot run like that indefinitely).
I cannot afford to hire a temp. The temp costs roughly 50% more than my employee. If I then want to hire this person, I have to pay the agency a flat fee of 20-25% of the yearly salary. (I looked at three different agencies and all of their contracts and they were all similar). In addition, to hire a temp I would still have to go through the entire interviewing process and then employee 1 would have to train the temp, which would mean more work for her. If employee 2 did not then return from maternity leave, either employee 1 would have to train another new employee or I would have to pay several thousand dollars (which I cannot afford) to keep the temp.
I can’t hire someone and tell them they may or may not have a job in a month. Nobody would take that job and we can’t afford the time and money to train somebody to only work for a month.
Having no further options, I hired a new person. Meanwhile, I decided to give employee 2 the full 6 weeks she had said she would be taking (she apparently did not have a C-section) and then determine what to do if she then planned to come back.
This is where I should have called to check in. However, when she didn’t contact us after 6 weeks, I gave her 2 more weeks and when I still had heard nothing I sent her the e-mail.
I agree that it was cowardly but I couldn’t face talking to her on the telephone. To be frank, I was a little angry that:
-She never volunteered that she was pregnant or asked for maternity leave
-We had to pester her to find out when she was leaving or how long she planned to stay out
-She assumed that we would pay all accrued vacation and sick leave (which I was intending to do) but that we would pay it as a lump sum in advance
-She made no effort to keep us appraised of her condition
-When she knew we were stuck with only one employee she did not bother to check in to see how we were doing
-When she knew that she was losing her childcare provider and she knew that we were aware of this she did not bother to let us know of her new plans
-She stayed out longer than she had initially told us she would and did not let us know of when she expected to be back
I probably am spoiled by employee #1. Not only does she request vacation several weeks in advance (and we do have an official form to request leave, which employee 2 never actually submitted), but she has been known to come in on a vacation day without being asked when another employee was sick.
In addition, the last time I had a pregnant employee, she requested leave ahead of time, told us she thought she would be out for 3 weeks, and came back after 3 weeks even when we told her we could plan for 6 weeks. She also kept us updated on her plans.
To be honest, I don’t know if employee #2 assumed that FMLA would assure her of a job on her return, but I really didn’t want to have to argue the law with her. In addition, her work had really suffered the last few months and employee 1 frankly does not want her back.
That said, I can’t win.
If I hold out indefinitely for employee #2, I have to keep stringing the new employee along which is unfair to her.
If I hire employee #2 back, I then have to fire the new employee in favor of someone who has not shown any company loyalty and has demonstrated that I cannot rely on her when she says that she will be available to work. In addition, I upset employee #1.
If I fire employee #2, I look like I am discriminating against a new mother.
I decided to apply the same test I would to anybody who took sick or disability leave for another reason. If they told me they would be out for 2 weeks and made no effort to contact us after an additional 1-2 weeks, I would fire them.
As far as discrimination goes, the majority of working certified medical assistants are actually young women. If I were to discriminate against someone it would be a male. Luckily, the situation has never come up where I had a male applicant who was appropriate for the job but I do worry. I have several patients who come to me because I am a woman. In some cases, they specifically see me because their religion forbids them to undress in front of a male who is not their husband. To do the job, my assistant must help me with procedures that require the patient to be undressed. Is it discrimination to not hire a male because my business depend on patients who specifically come to me so they can see a female physician and staff?