I have actually tried to get a known child molester investigated: it’s harder thna you all seem to think. Further, once you get the police and CPS to stop passing the buck and actually do something, they are far less effective than you might imagine. I mean seriously, it didn’t occur to any of them to check his internet usage? SERIOUSLY?
Given what I have learned, I would never, NEVER poo-poo the presence of a name on that list. I’m betting for every one crime that lands on the list those people comitted 20 more no one knows about. There are many people who have known this guy 10-15 years and swear it’s impossible that he’s done such a thing.
Change your locks immediately. You don’t know when the day will come that he’s desperate for money to feed an urge, and when those days come, you can’t know whether your house will be the one that swims up through his sick mind. You can’t know how long he will hold on to that key copy before he decides to use it. It could be years later.
Make sure everyone in the neighborhood knows to look out for him. Contact the police and let them know he was in the house with your kids. If he’s been convicted of child porn then he probably isn’t allowed within 100 yards of children. I’ll bet he violated his probation by being in your house.
People who are telling you to chill have never encountered a psychopath. They don’t know.
I am currently being stalked by a sex offender. Felony conviction for child rape. I don’t know why he picked me, I am not a child and I don’t look like one. Its been 3 years of me remembering that my restraining order expired because he contacted me again.
Change the keys. Don’t respond to any calls or emails. Ask your neighbors to watch out for you. Remember that when seconds count, the police are only minutes away.
Yeah, but was it teens or kids? I REALLY think there needs to be a “grey area” catagory for people caught with teen prOn vs. REAL child prOn. I mean yes teen prOn IS skeevy, but it’s not as bad as actual child prOn. Then again, if he’s lusting after young teens (ie 16 and under) that is more skeevy then if he just downloaded some stuff accidently.
In that case, he does sound rather unsavory. I’d be VERY cautious around him. If it was a one time “looking at hawt underage girls” thing, I’d say it wasn’t that big of a deal…but it seems like it’s more complex then that. Is there any way you could fire him or anything?
The bolded part is what people should be more concerned about, but noooo all the handwaving and gnashing of teeth is all about OH NO THERE WAS A SEX OFFENDER NEAR ME AND IN MY HOME HIDE THE CHILDREN!!! Everyone loves to hate on the sex offenders because they’re not even real people, you know. I’m also annoyed how anyone who’s on the sex offender registry is automatically pegged as a child molester. All the sex offenders in my area were convicted of sodomy back in the 90’s.
I have this article saved about things to remember with potential burglars. It’s way more likely you have to worry about your stupid stuff getting stolen than your kids. Sorry about the random capitalization, it’s not my bit but it’s good info. 13 things (and more) a burglar won’t tell you
Of course I look familiar. I was here just last week cleaning your Carpets, paint ing your shutters, or delivering your new refrigerator.
Hey, thanks for letting me use the bathroom when I was working in Your Yard last week. While I was in there, I unlatched the back window to Make my Return a little easier.
Love those flowers. That tells me you have taste… And taste means There Are nice things inside. Those yard toys your kids leave out always make Me Wonder what type of gaming system they have.
Yes, I really do look for newspapers piled up on the driveway. And I Might leave a pizza flyer in your front door to see how long it takes You to Remove it…
If it snows while you’re out of town, get a neighbor to create car And Foot tracks into the house. Virgin drifts in the driveway are a dead Giveaway.
If decorative glass is part of your front entrance, don’t let your Alarm Company install the control pad where I can see if it’s set. That makes It Too easy.
A good security company alarms the window over the sink. And the Windows On the second floor, which often access the master bedroom - and your Jewelry. It’s not a bad idea to put motion detectors up there too.
It’s raining, you’re fumbling with your umbrella, and you forget to Lock Your door - understandable. But understand this: I don’t take a day off Because of bad weather.
I always knock first. If you answer, I’ll ask for directions
Somewhere or Offer to clean your gutters. (Don’t take me up on it.)
Do you really think I won’t look in your sock drawer? I always check Dresser drawers, the bedside table, and the medicine cabinet.
Here’s a helpful hint: I almost never go into kids’ rooms.
You’re right: I won’t have enough time to break into that safe where You Keep your valuables. But if it’s not bolted down, I’ll take it with me.
A loud TV or radio can be a better deterrent than the best alarm System. If you’re reluctant to leave your TV on while you’re out of town, you can Bby a $35 device that works on a timer and simulates the flickering glow of real television.
8 MORE THINGS A BURGLAR WON’T TELL YOU:
Sometimes, I carry a clipboard. Sometimes, I dress like a lawn guy And Carry a rake. I do my best to never, ever look like a crook.
The two things I hate most: loud dogs and nosy neighbors.
I’ll break a window to get in, even if it makes a little noise. If Your Neighbor hears one loud sound, he’ll stop what he’s doing and wait to Hear It again… If he doesn’t hear it again, he’ll just go back to what he Was Doing. It’s human nature.
I’m not complaining, but why would you pay all that money for a fancy Alarm system and leave your house without setting it?
I love looking in your windows. I’m looking for signs that you’re Home, And for flat screen TVs or gaming systems I’d like. I’ll drive or walk Through your neighborhood at night, before you close the blinds, just to Pick my targets.
Avoid announcing your vacation on your Facebook page. It’s easier Than You think to look up your address.
To you, leaving that window open just a crack during the day is a way To Let in a little fresh air. To me, it’s an invitation.
If you don’t answer when I knock, I try the door. Occasionally, I hit The Jackpot and walk right in.
Sources: Convicted burglars in North Carolina, Oregon, California, and
Kentucky ; security consultant Chris McGoey, who runshttp://www.crimedoc and Richard T. Wright, a criminology professor at the
University of Missouri-St. Louis, who interviewed 105 burglars for his Book
Burglars on the Job
That’s because I don’t give a rats hind end about a bunch of things. The safety and well-being of my child is my only priority. I will lock my house and prtect it because she will be entering it at the end of the day.
And I never said sex offenders are not real people, they are a subset of particularly dangerous people, that’s the point of the registry. I wish they weren’t human, it might make them easier to identify.
I’ve said this before on here: my ex-boyfriend is now a convicted sex offender and is sitting in prison, hopefully for the rest of his life. This clouds my judgement considerably, because my first thoughts are change the locks, get a security system, and see if he has violated his parole by being around your children. I try not to hate anyone, but my hatred of my ex often does extend to most sex offenders.
Make the decision that will make you feel safe and secure in your home. No one has the right to take that away from you.
This brings up a very good question to the OP, would you have hired him to do your work if you had known prior?
My guess, and it’s only a guess is, “no.”
Which leads to the following quesiton, how is he or anyone supposed to get legit work if no one will hire you.
And I’m not meaning this as a rap to the OP. I can completely understand the way the OP feels.
If no one will give you a job, you’re gonna do stupid things.
And I don’t mean to hijack the thread so I won’t go on, but it is something to think about.
In a NICE way you gave the guy some legit work and that is something to be happy about. Assuming the work is of acceptable quality you should look at this as something nice you did for someone.
That said, I worked a temp job in a bail bond agency and one thing that really surprised me is how nice and even charming, bad people can be. This is why there is so much crime, because people always think the bad guys present themselves as such.
He was convicted of stealing and child porn. If he applied for a job where there was little possibility of stealing or of being in contact with children then fine. But inside someone’s private home with children around is another matter. A parent’s highest priority is to keep their children safe.
Statistically speaking I would suspect that an ex-theif/possible pedophile would be pretty stupid to target somebody’s home they had been hired to work at.
Isn’t one of the first things the cops are going to ask is “had any “strangers” hanging around/visiting/working here lately”?
Unless your impression of him was that he was particularly desperate/stupid or he gave off some creepy vibe (before you found out his history) I’d suggest its quite possible your home and family are the last place the guy is going to target. Also, unless he is completely devoid of human emotion, if you treated him well and payed him well, he probably has a bit of gratitude towards you, which again, might make him less likely to make you his future victim.
I see an assumption here that someone convicted of possessing child porn is necessarily a physical threat to children. To me it sounds like the argument that watching violent cartoons makes people violent, or the “gateway drug” argument.
I always thought the reason possession was a crime was that it aided and abetted people who made the stuff, and thereby harmed real children, and also to send a strong message that in our society this is Not Appropriate. Is there evidence that those who possess the stuff are also (definitely/likely/possibly) going to prey on real kids?
Oh, it’s definitely like the gateway drug argument, but the gateway drug argument isn’t necessarily incorrect, merely having the causality reversed. So doing pot doesn’t make you more likely to go on to harder drugs, but people who are likely to start doing pot might be more likely to do harder drugs anyway.
Similarly, those who own CP despite its illegality might be more likely to commit assaults despite its illegality. If that’s true, then owning CP does automatically raise questions (especially if it’s what people classically think of as CP.) What it does not mean of course that merely seeing CP will make you more likely to assault.
Is he on probation? Sex offenders on probation here are not allowed to have any job that takes them into peoples’ homes. YMMV, but it’s worth checking out.
You are talking about someone who works in your home, so you have reason to be concerned. But why wouldn’t you have that same level of concern for anyone you don’t know extremely well? You shouldn’t allow someone to work in your home unsupervised (not supervising the work, anything that’s not work). I’d say change the locks, but criminals don’t rely that much on keys anyway. You should have enough precautionary measures in place to deal with crimes committed by anyone.
If you feel unsafe, you should change the locks just for some peace of mind. We have a good alarm system as well, but that is more a function of living in the city than anything else.