I’m with you, Jim.
My “circle” of people I recognize by “name” is much broader here on the Dope than in real life, and because board culture is to provide an announcement, we know for sure when a death happens. In contrast, I only have a small group of people I know well, and a larger, but still fairly limited group of people I know by sight in my real community. In addition, if someone in my library just stops coming in, or a long-time clerk at the grocery is gone, I may never know they passed, just dimly realize I haven’t seen them in a while.
It is startling. Makes me realize that my IRL society is really limited and small, and that my community doesn’t do much to make a broader swathe of acquaintances aware of people’s passings. Perhaps I should start doing like my elderly coworkers and my grandmother do, and read the obituaries daily.