I Pit My Roommate's Unhealthy Emotional Connections

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My friend was in the same situation except she moved out and got an apartment with someone else, because that’s really all you can do if the roommate doesn’t want to get help and the domestic violence situation is affecting you and causing damage to the apartment.

I don’t think she broke her lease though, the lease happened to be up and she told the roommate that she was moving to a new apartment with someone else.

In time the abusive relationship did end, but unfortunately the roommate (who was a college friend of my friend and I) broke off his friendships with essentially everyone else as well and started a totally new life. I guess you have to do what you need to do to get away from an abuser though.

ETA: We weren’t friends with the abuser, but I think the roommate/our former friend wanted to forget all aspects of his life with the guy which was a little hurtful for us since we knew him prior to the relationship, but, what can you do.

I’ve broken a lease early by giving one month’s notice and it was no big deal. I’m sure you can do something similar. At the very least the landlord probably isn’t happy with the damage to the apartment and your roommate may find himself evicted anyway if it’s clear the damage is being caused by fighting and if it’s disturbing the neighbors, if police are being called, etc.

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Lemme see if I have this straight, because it was a very long and probably convoluted OP so I skimmed it: You want to fuck your roommate’s boyfriend but think that Former will come back and start a fight and you won’t get the deposit back when Current breaks the lease? Is it something like that? I wouldn’t know because this isn’t fucking MPSIMS or IMHO and I’m no fucking good with relationship advice. :rolleyes:

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Yeah, if other people can hear the fighting, and the apartment is being damaged, I can only imagine that the neighbours and the landlord would like the drama to end, too.

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[Pit Mode OFF] [MPSIMS Mode ON] It’s your home Mr Rough Trade’s disrupting, too, and if he is causing a ruckus in your home, ask him to leave. If he refuses to leave, call the cops. If Current disagrees, have the cops haul him away, too. If Current pulls that “I don’t want to be aloooooooone!” drama queen shit on you, tell him to grow the fuck up and quit living a cliche. If he doesn’t, find a new roommate. You can’t fix him (well, you can, but knives are better used on Mr RT :wink: ). You can offer guidance, but he has to fix himself. But first you have to end the disruption in your home.