Ohmigod ohmigod ohmigod. I did it. I just snapped. The Princess got to me one last time, and I left. There have been several documentations over the last 5 years of my conflicts with the Princess, and charges of hostile environment have been thrown around, and nothing was ever done by management. I’m sure my coworkers will attest to the hostility and the special preferences she’s been given. My supervisor even refers to her as her daughter, although they’re not related- I’m thinking that might shed some light on why she’s been allowed to act like she has.
I’ve filed for unemployment already, as I can’t see them not giving it to me in light of the circumstances. Even in this economy, though, I am in high demand, and don’t anticipate more than a week’s worth of job searching. It sucks, though- I was there for over 5 years. On the other hand, I had been getting really sick of it and am relieved that I won’t have to go back.
Oh my god, I can’t believe I just walked out of my job. My stomach hurts.
Well I actually like my job somewhat, but I have visions of having a day like yours sometime soon (mostly because I want to leave the city I live in) One more year for me!
Oh, thank you! It means a lot to me to hear some encouragement. I’m in tears right now, feeling out of control, and your post hit the nail right on the head- I did hit a wall. Thank you! Thanks to you to0, Quasimodal!
Me too. In fact, I’ve never left a job without replacing it with a much better one. And there are few experiences in life that give you such a great feeling of freedom, than simply walking out of a bad situation.
I know exactly how you feel. I detailed my experiences in an extremely toxic work environment here. After only six weeks I decided I did not want to work in a place where I was treated like shit and cheated out of my pay. I wrote out a letter of resignation over the weekend and dropped it off on Sunday and never looked back. I didn’t even answer the office manager’s calls.
I was worried and broke but it was better than working in a place like that. Anyway, long story short, two months later I found a higher paying job with great benefits, opportunity for advancement and great people. Life is too short to work in place where you’re treated like shit and that you hate. Hell, I spend more waking hours at work sometimes than I do at home. It better be a place I enjoy going to.
Alice, ya did the right thing. Once the shock wears off, I hope you feel elated that you no longer have to put up with that BS job anymore! And, best wishes in finding a new job right quick.
Thanks so much to everyone. I am feeling crazy right now for doing that, but it’s the shock, I’m sure. I knew I was getting to that point, though, and there have been a couple times in the past week or two that I almost did it, and I really do think that I needed to go. I really wish I hadn’t gone like that, but anybody at work that know the Princess will understand how I could have been driven to it.
Goddammit- here comes the shame and guilt of being… dunh dunh dunh!.. UNEMPLOYED!! But I’ve decided to take the rest of the week off and charge the new jobs on Monday.
Well, if it was really that bad and you have the financial wherewithall, I guess that’s a good thing. I don’t know how smart is to just walk off a job without having another job lined up. (Actually I do and “not very” is how smart it is)
I know all about miserable jobs you just want to say “fuck you” too, but generally it’s not that great an idea. I don’t know anything about the specifics of your situation, but were you pissed off because of some sort of abusive behavior or you just didn’t like that your boss favored the other coworker? People get worked up over bizarre petty bullshit that ultimately has very little to do with their actual performance.
Really the best skill one can master is the ability to care about doing a good job without personalizing every aspect of their job. Why should your boss screaming at you upset you more than the sound of an annoying cell phone or a crying baby? Just be like “No, I’m sorry, I don’t understand what you are trying to say. How about you try again in an appropriate tone.” If the worst your boss can do is fire you and you are ready to walk out anyway, what’s the worst they can do?
I still think you should have waited until you got a new job though.
Good for you. I did that in January (after 10 and a half years there), and despite not finding a job yet, I haven’t regretted it for one second. I’d gladly go bankrupt and move in with my grandmother then work under those conditions one more day.
FYI, I was turned down for unemployment, but got it on appeal. I had to submit a note from my psychiatrist to the effect that my job was literally driving me crazy. So be sure to document, document, document. They’re running so far behind that the appeal took six months to get scheduled, so it’s better to win right off.
I’ve been there, too. It was euphoric for me; the incredible relief of never having to spend another minute at a job I hated, and the adrenaline rush of “What’s going to happen now?”
You did the right thing, Alice. I’m applauding you for making a difficult and scary decision, but it was also a very good one! I’ll cross my fingers for you that your next job will be satisfying and will come soon!
Same here. Two years ago I walked out of a job that was quite literally giving me nightmares. Not only do I not regret it, I’m making a heckuva lot more money at a job where they treat me well. I grew more professionally during the first six months of the current job than I did in nearly three years in the old job.
msmith537- I know, I know! What do you think is going on in my head right now? But then again, I am a specialist of the sort that is desperately needed here in the skin cancer capital of the USA- a dermatological medical assistant. I can have a job within a week, and that’s counting taking the next two days and the weekend off, I’m confident.
As for the coworker, I’ve had issues with her from the beginning, starting 5 years ago. They have been well-documented and while IANAunemploymentworker, point to a claim of hostile work environment. I feel that her (and my) supervisor making open references to the Princess as “daughter” and the Princess calling her/my supervisor “Mom” only adds to my claim of the supervisor tolerating and even encouraging the hostile work environment. It’s so inappropriate, and makes it very obvious to the rest of the employees that nothing will be done if you have a dispute with La Princesa. It’s hopeless! Hopefully UI will see my point there. But I am scared.
I do have some other small income, however, so I’m not totally down and out- I’ll just have to get out there Monday and snag something.
