I have a good perspective on what you might have to deal with.
I was a traditional student, straight from high school, state college (in 4 years), straight to med school (4 years), and 3 years of residency. I’m 30 years old now and just starting to practice as an attending.
I was part of the admissions committee my senior year of medical school (at a state school), so here is my advice. First of all, you would probably not be granted an interview or even a secondary application the way things stand now, with a college transcript from 1993-1997. Quite frankly, there is no way you would be able to ‘review’ enough material in self study over a one year time and do well enough on the MCAT to overcome that red flag on you application. That being said, I had classmates in medical school who were 35-40 years old when we started.
You absolutely are going to have to go back and retake a bunch of science courses at the college level as a post-bac. Particularly, gen chemistry, organic chem, and physics. You can possibly get by without taking a basic biology class, but any other upper level bio classes you wanted to take wouldn’t hurt. One of my residency classmates had a career as a lobbyist in DC prior to going to med school. His undergrad degree was Political Science. But he had to go back and do Post-bac classes before even thinking of applying.
Then get into a review course for the MCAT (Kaplan et al). You will need directed instruction on taking this test that you will not be able to get using self-study.
If you’ve gotten this far, you’re ready to apply. You should apply to every single school in your state and to any private schools you’re willing to move to. You will have to cast a wide net with your non-traditional application. As others have said, it is almost a waste of time to apply to out-of-state public schools. As an example, I had a 3.8 GPA, 36 MCAT, Varsity Athlete and I couldn’t even get an interview at Univ of Florida despite appealing their original decision because I was a Georgia resident at the time (UF was the closest medical school to my hometown, too). Also, I’ll reiterate what several others have said… this is an expensive endeavor; thousands of dollars just to apply, not to mention travel.
Your free time as a medical student and resident will be very limited. But that being said, you can make what you want of you time there. Do you mind being bottom of your class, getting C’s in your courses? Do you have aspirations of being a Neurosurgeon, or would you be happy as a Family Doc or Pediatrician? Can you afford to be making -$40,000 a year as a student and +$40,000 as a resident (racking up $100,000 in debt) and then making $60,000/year as a small town Family Doc?
If you have any other questions, I’ll be glad to answer them if I can. This is just my initial reaction to your situation.