VCO3, I wonder something, and hope you’ll forgive me for the wondering. It sounds as if you’re looking for a group of pretty stable, even-keeled people to play with. Your board persona often comes across as someone who keeps the volume turned up to 11 and who gets a bit of pleasure out of saying shocking things, just to see how people respond to the shock. Look at the second paragraph of your OP, an OP guaranteed to attract gamers, in which you insult gamers.
If the question is whether it’s a hopeless dream for you specifically to play with attractive, even-keeled people, it seems to me that, absent a major difference between your board persona and your off-board persona, the answer would be yes.
Have you taken that into consideration? Unless you can show a more diplomatic side to the even-keeled gamers, they’re likely to shun you in favor of gaming with other even-keeled gamers, leaving you to game with the trolls and troglodytes.