As a Canadian ebay seller for the last year I have to say that it sounds like Melin is being overcharged.
I must have sent close to 500 packages to the USA, and unless your seller is using an express delivery or something similar, the cost should be more like $5 or $6 US. I’m assuming that you seller is sending airmail, and using a padded envelope. If they’re using a big box, with lots of packing, then perhaps they’re paying $14.00 CDN–but I doubt it!
Having said that, I will say that postal costs here are much higher than the USA, with less service (we don’t have Saturday delivery, for example.) With over 600 completed sales (for a hard-earned feedback of 377, no negs), I haven’t yet had a parcel go astray.
Melin, try contacting the seller by email and ask how they are planning to ship the sucker, and if there is a cheaper alternative. (Between you and me, I think they’re adding ‘handling’ to pad their profits a bit.)
I usually lose a few cents on my postage to the US, as I charge a set rate: US $1.50 for small items (postcards, paper ephemera), US $2.00 for larger items (road maps, brochures, etc.), and US $3.50 for books. These are all for airmail, and I’d rather lose .50 cents or so per deal than rip people off!
If you can find out how much the beanie weighs, then go to the Canada Post website and find out what the shipping cost should be:
Don’t let this put you off dealing with out-of-country folks on ebay: 90% of my buying and selling has been cross-border, and I have nothing but good experiences so far.
Good luck from storeswallah!