SexyWriter - one of my closest friends and her husband have two Samoyeds. They’re not small dogs, even if you give 'em a crew cut. They bought an SUV because the only way they could get the two of them, the two dogs, their a small child (in a car seat) into one vehicle, is if it was a large vehicle. So I understand.
But I, too, can’t pay attention to the road ahead unless I can see it. So if you don’t mind when I try real hard to be in front of you rather than behind you, we’re good to go. Too often, when I try to squeeze my Honda Accord in front of an SUV in traffic, they take it personally, but it’s not personal. I just want to be able to see ahead.
But now to respond to a misplaced accusation of selfishness:
I don’t have much patience for people who decide it’s OK to block my view of the traffic ahead, simply because they wanted a car on steroids.
Screw the gas mileage and any of that other stuff. While driving, there is one Prime Directive that overrules all others: Pay Fucking Attention to the road ahead (and behind, and alongside, for that matter). I tend to drive a little faster than average, so for me it’s mostly the road ahead.
By watching the road ahead, I can see situations while they’re still developing, that may or may not ultimately be a problem, and respond (by slowing down, by changing lanes, even by exiting to another road) well before I’m right on top of them. I think this makes me a safer driver, which is important to me: this is the only body I’ve got.
But when the car ahead of me typically prevents me from seeing the road ahead, all that goes out the window, and I’m driving half-blind, no matter how much I try to watch the road.
While some need SUVs (or minivans, or full-sized pickups), right now SUVs are half the new cars sold in America. The rest of those people, quite frankly, are the selfish pricks in this story. They are, in effect, placing a tax on me - taking away something I used to have, and took for granted: my ability to see the road ahead through and around the car in front of me. And just because they want this behemoth on wheels.
You say I’m being selfish and arrogant because I want to be able to see in traffic, and be able to respond to the road up ahead. Well, that’s a positively ridiculous idea. When I’m on the road, nothing’s more important than my safety.
I suppose the same could be said by the SUV drivers. But the difference is, I’m protecting my safety in a manner that doesn’t interfere with others’ ability to protect theirs.
That seems to come right down to the core definition of selfishness: are you meeting your own needs in a way that (a) respects and tries to accommodate the needs of others, or (b) tells everyone else to take a flying leap?
Having put it that way, I’ll be damned if I see how I’m being the selfish one here.
Nobody made this distinction.
It’s just that SUVs are the most common element of the class that includes full-sized pickups, minivans, etc., and (accurately or not) it’s perceived that people more frequently tend to buy pickups and minivans because they periodically need them. But there’s no doubt that millions of Americans who could fit just as well into a family sedan or station wagon are in SUVs instead. When half the new-car purchases are SUVs, how is anything else possible?
So SUVs are not just the natural representative of the class, but they’re quite naturally the lightning rod on which people focus the ire that they’re really directing at the entire class.