Do NOT switch schools!
I graduated 3rd in a class of 12000, with 780s and 790s in my GREs. I did not get into graduate school. There were three reasons:
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I was trying to get into Clinical Psych, a program which has far more applicants than acceptees.
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I was almost 40.
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I went to Temple, NOT a prestige school (Temple has some prestigious graduate programs, but its undergraduate program is not at all selective).
The only one of these three reasons that was ever mentioned to me by a graduate school was the third. It’s not my imagination.
As for the incipient snobbery you feel about money, NinjaChick, I wouldn’t sweat it unless it causes you to treat your family any differently from the way you did before. You will find, I suspect, despite the near-universal devotion to the concept that every person is equally valuable, yada, yada, that you will evaluate people on a variety of standards unique to you, just as everyone else does - and like them, admire them, wish to emulate them - or not, dependent on those. That’s what we ALL do. And those standards will change many times throughout your life. It’s less to do with maturity per se than it is to do with your experiences - as you go through more of your life, you will find that the things that you value in others will change as your experiences cause you to develop. That’s one of the main reasons we have so many divorces, I think.
But I must say your current choice of snobbery a bit strange to me. True class snobbery, IMO, would call for you to appreciate economical living. Throwing money around with no thought of value as compared to cost is tacky. I think if you visited the homes of many of your fellow students, you would find their parents and families far less admirable than your own. And you can take pride in the fact that your family has *earned * what it has, not inherited it through no merit but that of lucky birth, or some of what appear to me to be the outrageously lucky and/or morally questionable ways that some people become very wealthy. Any fellow student who looks down his or her nose at you is simply displaying his or her own gross immaturity. And I’ll bet, if you could ever find out for sure, you’d find that those are very few - most of your fellow students would either be indifferent or even a little envious of your coming up the (comparatively) hard way.
That being said, it’s hardly unnatural or even sinful to feel a little envy for your fellow students who can have anything they want without any concern as to whether or not they can afford it, or even to feel a little resentment that you can’t do the same. As long as you recognize that the resentment is both irrational and undeserved when applied to your parents, and conduct yourself accordingly, you’re fine. Let’s face it - we don’t have control over our feelings, and we all often have feelings that are less than “nice.” As long as we don’t let them control our behavior, we’re fine.
It may help to bear in mind that you’re hardly hurting. You’re at a top-notch school, you apparently have your own computer, your family is (as has been pointed out) far more intellectually sophisticated than the average Joe (they read, they have chosen beautiful nature scenes for their decor), and you live in a solid, reasonably well-maintained house. At your school and in your life, you have no exposure to the squalor and ignorance that is the everyday life of most of the truly poor. Your parents bought generics when they didn’t “need” to? At least they could make the mortgage (hell, they *had * a mortgage!) when one of their kids was sick or the car broke down. Your family life was not lived in a state of perpetual financial crisis. Your parents knew and cared who were their governor, their senators, what was going on in the world outside their immediate environment. Compared to a disgracefully large percentage of our population, you were and are very well off.