I'm dreaming of a White Christian...

I really dislike Christmas (no big shocker, I know, to those of you I’ve discussed religion with generally), mainly because it’s impossible to ignore. At school, for example, my immediate boss, a nice fellow, holds a party around this time, which I kinda hate and kinda have to attend, or at least show my face at, and I’m always more of a curmudgeon that I really want to be. People sit around a table, eating and drinking and singing Christmas songs, none of which I know, care about or am unoffended by, and I always seem like such an unpleasant nut-case.

“Come on, Ruber, what’s YOUR favorite Christmas song?”

Since I’d rather not go into my actual response, which would be a profanity-laden tirade against the perniciousness of religion in general and Christianity in specific, I just go “Don’'t have one,” which you’d think would let me get left alone, but NOOOO! Someone usually says, “How about ‘Come Ye, O Faithful’? That’s a beauty,” and then someone sings it (I think that’s a real Christmas song, no?) and I spend the whole time fending off suggestions that I sing some other song, or join in the singing of some group song like the 12 Days of Christmas which if I ever knew the words to it, I’ve tried bleaching out my brain. Anyway, I’m either a creep for not coming to the office party or a creep for not singing about the baby Jesus. I’ve gotten to dread December in general.

If you’re stuck for a pithy Christmas songs you could do worse than I believe in Father Christmas.

Well, you’ve inspired me to go listen to some Magic Christian and start drinking White Russians… so there’s that.

Grandma Got Run Over by a Reindeer?

Dude, lighten up. I’m an atheist Jew and I went to a Christmas party last week. We all got smashed and then attempted to sing Christmas carols. Hilariously, we couldn’t even get all the way through “Jingle Bells”, but somehow remembered all of “The Twelve Days of Christmas”. Several of the other people there were Jewish too; the only time it came up was when we tried to avoid the blame for forgetting the words to various carols ("Don’t blame me, I’m Jewish! I’m not SUPPOSED to know the words to “Hark the Herald Angels Sing”).

Of course, this was with friends, not coworkers. Back when I had a normal office job, I avoided Christmas parties like the plague. And I once got accused of being a grinch for not wanting to listen to Christmas carols on my computer in my own cube. (No, I do not want to get into the Christmas spirit, thanks.)

It’s just such NOT a fun party, people singing songs whose words I have no idea of, and insisting EVERYBODY sing, and discussing all Christmas-y shit, and making stupid jokes about how we should get some mistletoe in here (Yeah, like that would help prevent sexual harassment suits with students and faculty and administrators in the room)–it’s just an hour every year, I know, but it’s my least favorite hour at work, including the hours I spend grading freshman placement exams.

I was raised Jewish, too, and if it wouldn’t be even more obnoxious, I’d like to respond in Yiddish when someone asks about my favoritest Christmas of all my wonderful Christmases. So I just endure the mild distress I feel, and avoid inflicting my twisted sense of humor on them, mainly consisting of MAD magazine’s version of Christmas songs, to most of which I DO remember the words.

At our house, we gather around the tree and sing Big Butter Jesus

Or Happy Christmas by John Lennon is pretty good.

ELP’s “I believe in Father Christmas” (noted above) is a favorite too.

As for the rest, to me they’re seasonal folk songs, and I take them just as seriously as I do other songs of that genre. Some have decent music and/or lyrics, others don’t.

Can’t you talk about it to your boss?

Why would it be obnoxious to at least respond that you’re jewish, so don’t have favorite christmas memories or songs? That’s your past experience, your culture, and your heritage.

If it was a really big deal, I would talk to my boss, I would explain that it’s not a part of my culture, and this would be in the Pit. But it’s just an hour, and it’s mundane and pointless.

QtM, you could stick all of my current ties to Judaism under your eyelid and never blink, so I don’t even want to go there. I’m not offended because I was raised Jewish, I’m bored because I’m an atheist–it would be worse if they felt obliged to go all multi-culti on my ass and toss in an extra hour of Hanukkah shit.

Give it up for Kwanzaa and Festivus too.

Oh, there’s always the old Pogues standby for those of us who hardly give a rat’s ass but need drunken gen-Xmas sing-along time:

“'t was Christmas Eve, babe,
in the drunk tank.
An old man said to me,
‘won’t see another one…’”

“You’re a bum, you’re a punk”
“You’re an old slut on junk
lying there almost dead on a drip in that bed. . .”

But so heartwarming in the end!

Christmas is barely a religious holiday at this point. It’s Santa Claus and Christmas Trees and Rudolf and Frosty and Scrooge and the Grinch and George Bailey and Ralphie. You could pass through the entire season and forget that Jesus was originally involved. So the next time they ask you for a Christmas song, give them “Jingle Bells”.

This is exactly my feeling. I know our Christmas Tree has very little even vaguely religious about it outside of a few Stars of David and Dreidels and maybe an odd angel or three. Our tree top is a stuffed Moose.

But then I do have fond memories of Christmas as a kid and so I can’t relate directly to PRR.

Is there anything to stop you saying “I don’t celebrate Christmas?”

Serious question.

And now I’ve got the tune in my head, and am composing new lyrics. So far what I’ve got is:

I’m dreaming of a white Christian,
just like the ones I used to know

(some blablabla missing here)

May you all be merry
May your daughters all be cherry,
and may all of your Christian sons be whi-i-ite!

Now, THAT maybe I’ll sing at the next party.

Have a black-and-white striped minty sweet, you poor old thing.

Not a fan of Christmas myself. Every year I forget the promise I made to myself to buy 31 days’ worth of tinned food at the end of November and wait out the zombpocalypse of shopping in December.

Nevertheless, my mother gets very, very upset every year when I tell her that no, I don’t want to catch a train for two hours each way for a family Christmas which I hate being at, so after the first few blow-ups I usually agree to suffer through it.

But one year she was trying to hustle everyone around and make them pretend that they’re having a good time when she remembered that I’d been listening to my iPod when she picked me up at the station.

“Do you have any Christmas songs on there?”
“Yeah, but probably not the sort you’re looking for.”
“Well put it on the stereo. No-one seems to be talking to each other.”

I tactfully pointed out that at a family gathering this was generally the best that could be hoped for. Our family gatherings tended toward feuds more typical of Rennaisance Venetian politics, with alliances constantly in flux depending on the importance of the most recent outrage, as measured on the Williams family algorithm, which I’ve never been privvy to but is only slightly more complex than the algorithm measuring the activity of all life in the universe.

When we got back on track after that little armageddon…

“No, really. It’s not the sort of music you want to play.”
“I don’t care. Hook it up.”

So I did. I selected the ‘Christmas’ genre playlist and randomised.

First up was South Park’s the Most Offensive Song in the World. “I heard there is no Christmas in the silly Middle East…”

It’s not a long song, but the lyrics are fairly clear, and after the third F-bomb she stormed over and hit the ‘skip forward’ button, shooting me a look which, if it could kill, would have let me skip the next couple of hours of the family gathering.

This cued up a lot of lo-fi tape hiss and a couple of plunks from a ukelele. I realised what was coming next. Tiny Tim’s “Santa Claus has Got the AIDS this Year”. It didn’t last much past the first verse. Pity. I like the bit where Santa isn’t singing out “ho ho ho ho” but instead he’s calling out “no no no no”.

And then there were Irish fiddles and a pretty little vocal and everything was good. My mother stomped over to me and, as Mr McGowan was trolling through the second verse, said “that’s better. I was starting to think that there was something wrong with your mind.”

The deficiencies of my mind are probably her second most favourite topic. Second only behind my failures as a son because I don’t call her or visit her often enough.

And at this point the lyrics take a sharpish turn. She paused. “Did he just call her a slut? Wait. ‘Lousy faggot’?” And again she stomped over to the stereo.

And cued up William Burroughs reading his (fairly positive) “a Junkie’s Christmas” over the Disposable Heroes of Hiphopracy’s backing.

This got the iPod pulled from its Jack. She stormed back and thrust it into my hands. “Why didn’t you say something? Do you know what’s wrong with your mind?” She started.

I felt like heading it off. “Look, I want to go home. Can I get someone to give me a lift back to the station?”

This derailed her. “Why? We haven’t even had lunch yet.”

Sigh.

This year she’s overseas harassing my sister and my Christmas Day will be spent replacing the toilet bowl that my tenants broke. I’m honestly anticipating the best Christmas ever.

“The Xmas I replaced the broken toilet bowl” is a nice title for a short story. I’m just saying.

prr, I think the thing is not that you’re an atheist, but that you are (or at least appear to be) an introvert. I am both of these things as well. I don’t enjoy holiday parties unless they’re with people I actually care about, and coworkers often don’t fall into that category.