I had to quit working on a website that I really believed in because of my partner’s unethical behaviour. Of course to him, I’m just a crazy bitch, but I just couldn’t go on. Now, I’m not sure what I’ll do…my kid is starting school and because of child care problems I won’t be able to get a traditional job. I was so excited about having something to work on and now this. This bites. I’ve felt like crying all day. What am I going to do now?
Tatertot, I’m sorry to hear that. I don’t know what to say (being jobless myself, and all 
). Is it possible to find another partner?
Hey Tater {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}
Dont worry. I’m sure you will find something. would you be able to start your own site?
tatertot,
Time to market your web skills.
Keep a copy of the web site as part of your “portfolio” get out there and look for people in your area that need a site. There are a lot of local businesses who have horrible web sites or need something new and fresh.
Good luck but don’t let that set you back.
Oh, god, Tracy, I’m sorry to hear that. I really angry and hurt for you, and I hope you’re OK. I know you really believed in that website.
If you want to talk to me, you can give me a call. I’ll be at my work phone number for 1/2 hour or so. (You know the number).
I’m really disappointed, and more than a little angry about this, because I know it meant a lot to you. But based on what you’ve told me in the past, I believe you’re doing the right thing.
Again, if you want someone to talk to, try my work number.
Dan
Well…hopefully hubby will be able to buy out partner and I’ll be able to start back again. This is really bad, all of you who were in on the gag, I’m going to have to delete you from the boards because partner has decided that he is going to send e-mail out to all of the registered members whether they requested it or not. Luckily, Johnny still has admistrative rights, and can do this. I’ve done so much work and I’d hate to have it all be for nothing. We were supposed to have our grand opening of the site in two weeks…so much for that. I only hope his unethical business practices come back to kick him in the ass.
Don’t you hate it when it hurts to do the right thing?
Dan, I’ve sent you an e-mail with the whole story. It’s pretty ugly. Remember those problems I told you about in the past? I’ve had to ban him from my house because he just doesn’t seem to get that telling racist jokes is not okay in my presence and especially not my son’s. I feel bad, because I’m putting Johnny in a difficult position, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.
I’d call but little Tot is awake and it’s impossible to talk with him around. Don’t worry too much, I’m sure I’ll find something to do. I just feel a little displaced right now.
Oh tater, that sucks. {{tatertot}}
Don’t worry, they will eventually. A reputation of being unethical is what he’s making for himself, and that’s what he’ll have to live with.
:::evil laugh::: At least I have the consolation that I’m walking away with most of the contacts and original content. In fact, maybe I should start my own site, I’m thinking that I can afford the hosting fees and software licenses, esp. if I swallow my pride and ask for a small loan from Daddy Tot. The only thing is I’d be competing against my husband, which would kill me. If only I could take back the good ideas that I gave them. Right now, I’m moving into the vengeful stage of my grief.
::hands tatertot a voodoo doll and long, sharp pins::
Good luck to you, tatertot, whatever you decide to do.
Was this the same one who borrowed your computer at all hours of the night, too? You’d mentioned that he seemed unreceptive to your ideas, and that you hand him had some differences with respect to the logo, but I wasn’t aware of any other issues (though, granted, these two, especially the first one, are pretty important)
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I know you feel bad, but you’re doing the right thing. I’m hesitant to criticize Johnny, of course, but how does he feel about the racist jokes. Johnny will understand, in time, if he doesn’t now.
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If you need someone to talk to in the next few days, please, please call. I will say I’m not worried about you needing something to do–you’re ALWAYS so busy!
[semi humorous aside] I don’t know about AudreyK’s voodoo doll (the woman is starting to scare me), but Michi really does have one, courtesy of her dad, who lives in Hawaii (which leads me to believe that AudreyK may very well have one). Man, I’m in a lot of trouble, between Michi, AudreyK, and Tater here, to say nothing of “Stern Scotti”.
If I disappear from the boards, folks, someone make sure Cecil does a column on Voodoo and dedicates it to me. Please?
[/semi humorous aside]
Tracy, I’d consider asking your dad for that loan IF your husband does what you suggested he might in the e-mail. Otherwise, take my advice, and please, please don’t go into business against your husband. Besides the marital discord, there may be legal entanglements as well. This is a BAD idea. I really think that you’ll end up putting your talents to good use, in the scenario you talk about in your e-mail. Have faith.
::innocent smile:: Who, me? Nooooooo…
Besides, I thought I already scared you.
tatertot, if there’s ever anything we can do for you, just holler. We’d be happy to lend a hand.
tater - I’m so sorry to hear about your job troubles, but it sounds like you did the right thing. If your partner is a jerk, chancers are his customers will find out about it and his business will suffer in the process.
With your web skills I’ll bet you ger more work in no time.
Best wishes.
While I’m still pissed off, I am now moving into the getting on with my life stage. (It’s amazing what a few hours of cleaning therapy will do for you.) I’ve just applied to volunteer for a few hours a week for a non-profit website; it doesn’t pay but I can use the experience. Plus, I’ve got a lot to do until Little Mr. Tot goes off to kindergarten in September, so this will be perfect (if I get it).
As for web skills, I wish I had them but I’m more on the marketing/advertising side of things. I’ve learned some, but I’m no techchick. Maybe in time, I’m learning faster than I expected.
DRY, don’t worry about me doing anything illegal. I own all of the content that I took with me (actually I hadn’t handed it over yet) and the contacts were ones I brought with me. And you know I wouldn’t do anything to put my relationship with Johnny on the line. We’ve agreed that the SB should not be invited into our home anymore, since he has a problem keeping his mouth clean. Johnny just has an easier time separting personal and work life. Oh, and he’s not the neighbors I was talking about before, but he was downloading the Tonya Harding porno video at my house on Saturday (the day things blew up). I’m no prude (okay, I am) but I have a real problem with people downloading stuff like that on the computer my kid has free access to.
(can someone cue up some inspirational, spunky girl takes over the world music here? thanks.)
Thanks everyone for their support. A lot of good has come out of this; I’ve found two great people to serve as my mentors and learned a ton.
Now, back to my cleaning therapy.
I don’t know the whole story here, but suffice to say I’ve learned this about the business world. NEVER, ever comprimise your ethics for a company. Eventually their unethical practices WILL bite them in the ass, and you don’t want your name associated with them.
My husband has practiced this and is vice president and part owner of his company.
I’ve practiced this, and run into conflict. The last job I had I got “laid off” because of scheduling conflicts. More likely it was because I told the CEO I would not give false information to our clients. Unemployeed? Yes. Pride and honor intact? Absolutely. AND, it opened the door to my current position as a Systems Administrator for a very nice company.
You did the right thing- good for you!
Zette
PS- the volunteer work for web design is a GREAT idea. You can put those in your portfolio just the same as a paid site. Good luck!
Welcome to the world of the unemployed! Of course, we all know why I’m in that position…my own fault.
Just remember that what goes around, comes around. I truly
believe it’s a Law of Nature as sure as gravity…we just don’t see it right away.
Tater, I had to quit a job once because my ethics wouldn’t allow me to continue working for this creep.
My former boss was a Republican mayor of a small city. As Mayor, he was the President of the Board of Health. One day a guy who had just opened up a restaurant came in and asked for a food operation license. I got out the application and started filling it out. When he saw the prices for an annual vs. seasonal permits, he asked if he could just do a seasonal one, seeing how it was October already and he didn’t want to have to pay for a full year. I explained that seasonal permits were only for people that operated “seasonally” (e.g. a swimming pool that’s only open in the summer) and it didn’t apply to him, seeing how he was open year round.
He said, “Why don’t you go ask the Mayor what he thinks?” I was taken aback, but did as he requested. I went in there, knowing that the Mayor would come out, shake the guy’s hand and lament how rules are rules, etc.
Instead, the Mayor asked me, “What’s the guy’s name?” I told him, and he replied (I am not making this up): “Is he a registered Republican?” I said, “Gee, Tony, I don’t know.” And he waved his hand and said, “Well, he might be after today. Go ahead and give it to him.”
AAAAHHHH!!
When he started rigging the bidding system so his cousin would win large contracts, I resigned.
Happily, I used my anger and computer skills to campaign against him the following election and the Democratic candidate ousted him, after 12 years in office.
Tater, stand proud. You did the right thing. And his day will come, trust me.
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tatertot, girl, you take your morals and ethics, and run with them, friend…these are too few and far between…they are so valuable…moreso than any job…think how proud little tot can be of mommy…
[insert Nodoubt singing “I’m just a girl”]
:: applause ::
Tater… So sorry to hear everything going on. I was so looking forward to it. Remember, I’m with you in whatever you do. Your friend by the sea…
