My ten year old son is starting 5th grade this year and I’m dreading it. He’s the “baby” of two older sisters and myself, and he’s always been somewhat headstrong. By this, I mean that in order to keep his place with two much older sisters (8 and ten years older), he’s always had to speak his mind, assert himself and generally not take any crap. However well this has worked in the family, it doesn’t carry over well in the classroom.
He will be starting the second year at a new private school, and his teacher is young–she’s slightly younger than myself, and has spent the past few years teaching PRESCHOOL, and now is jumping to 5th grade. Class size is small, however, here’s what worries me. Son needs someone who will set boundaries and REINFORCE them with CONSISTENCY (something which his–male–teacher last year admitted to me that he, as a teacher, had difficulty doing–and big surprise! It cause a LOT of problems with my son.) Son likes to push the envelope. Not in an evil way, not in a mean way, but just to see what he can get away with. He’s very popular in school (everyone knows and likes him, including the adults), but to have him in the classroom can be difficult. For example, last year they had a “reading corner” which was really just a couch with pillows. Instead of reading on the couch, Son would take the pillows and build a fort. My response would have been, “Get off the pillows and either read or sit back at your desk.” Apparently, this was NOT the response of the past teacher.
My question (finally!) is how in the world do I communicate with the new teacher Son’s need for consistent boundaries without coming across as telling her how to run things in her classroom? Advice from teachers would be GREATLY appreciated!