They’re the worst kind of facts.
The problem is a lot of people don’t understand what a fact is. If you’re arguing that the New England Patriots won the Super Bowl this year, that’s a fact. If you’re arguing that the New England Patriots are the best team in the NFL, that’s an opinion. But some people will argue the latter as if it was a fact like the former.
YOU want to complain! Look at these shoes. I’ve only had them three weeks and the heels are worn right through. If you complain nothing happens, you might as well not bother. Oh, my back hurts, it’s not a very fine day and I’m sick and tired of this office.
<I hate wrong facts>
Sorta relevant is something I remember hearing ages ago by some advice person on talk radio. Or maybe it was an advice column I saw. The question was along the lines of: “I know my co-worker’s spouse is having an affair. Do I tell my friend.” The response was something like, think first why you want to tell the person and what you want to accomplish. Do you want to help the friend? Hurt the spouse? Break them up? Help them save their marriage? Etc. Because if your goal is less than laudable, you might want to keep your trap shut.
Something similar could be said about arguments. Are you trying to assist/inform the other person? Persuade them? Demonstrate your superiority? Piss them off? Do you simply enjoy verbal jousting?
Factor in the specific individual, setting, and topic, and you might have a chance of being something other than annoying.
I know. Many of those people are in my family. :smack:
You have shoes?
Oh, how I would LONG for the privilege of having shoes. I have to wrap tar paper with glass shards and metal shavings around my feet.
Is being arguementitive a stand alone character flaw or do you have others that go with it. Do you consider yourself especially unique in a lot of ways, do you consider your situtations are often unique. I have seen this same trait in people with strong narcissistic personalities. ( my spell check is not working sorry in advance)
Warning issued for personal insults. (Style points issued for calling your shot, though.)
Please, in the future, leave the insults out of this forum and take it to the Pit if you must.
Nuh-uh!
Are you argumentative? Or are you just quarrelsome? Being argumentative can be good, up to a point. When I’m working through something, I tend to argue about it because other peoples’ defense of their opinions on the subject help to hone and clarify my own. When I’ve worked through the issue, the urge to argue subsides and I’m no longer argumentative.
Being quarrelsome, however, indicates that you are a contrarian. That if I mention it’s hot, you’ll immediately say it’s cold, even though you remarked how hot it was 5 minutes earlier. You don’t want to argue with me, you just want to disagree with me. Being quarrelsome isn’t good. It’s an impediment to everything around it - relationships, projects, anything that involves a modicum of cooperation.
If you are argumentative, then ok. Just try not to overdo it. But if you are quarrelsome, give some thought to a character adjustment.
You are argumentative because you are a young buck with a lot of energy but no where to focus it. You think you know a lot more about how and why the world works than you actually do. Any attempts to dissuade you from you’re uninformed knee jerk feelings or intuitions will be rationalized away or ignored because you just know you’re right. There’s nothing wrong with this necessarily most young people are this way and as they get older and gain experience they start tuning in instead of just broadcasting.
No, you’re not.
Hang on, wait. Maybe I’m doing this wrong.
No, you are!
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