The ones who began vicious name-calling.
Nacho corners used for shivs. You know the type.
Giraffe’s unsocialized dog theory has me cracking UP! Funny as hell, because I know he’s dead serious.
MsWhatsit is killing me with pointing out dude coming in front of everyone.
Leaffan, shut the fuck up about the grammar please. I’ve never seen anyone respond to a grammar lesson with as much class as mademoiselle did in this thread, lo a dozen pages ago. So fuck off with that.
We’ve gone over this. Your entire rationale is entirely dumb. Aside from how silly your Suzy Sick angle is, it is perfectly fine to ask someone if they’d mind scooting down one so they can sit next to their date. Not a big deal. Complying without a fuss is what anyone but an asshole would do. But you’re okay with staying put, because you don’t have to move, and you were there first, and they came in 5 minutes late, and bla bla bla. Okay, fine, don’t move. You’re an asshole then.
Oui.
So like I said, anyone who refuses to extend this tiny little nicety is either a douche of some kind (possibly nuts), or hasn’t been around other people enough to know how to socialize like a normal goddamn human being. I’d like to say your phrasing was gentler, but I can’t decide if that’s the case. On one hand, you didn’t call anyone a “dickhead.” On the other, in your analogy, people who insist on not moving are akin to bad dogs.
Edit:
RIGHT?! Apparently being just a little bit civil makes you a pussy? WTF? I mean.. I just.. I can’t even…
And here I just think that calling other people uncivilized jackals because they wouldn’t do exactly what you would do kinda shows you have your own social issues.
You and the “this means that everyone would have to agree to any request made of them at any time for any reason! OMG!!” people need to get team shirts or something. This thread is getting pretty crowded.
Not even close to my line of reasoning.
I’m just not going to start throwing around judgement and vitriol because someone else would get up and move or not.
The hilarious thing to me about all this is that the OP put all her disclaimers in her original post and yet folks still don’t believe her. Whenever we’ve had anyone come back to clarify what they originally meant, they are obviously lying. Because they didn’t give us all the information up front. Now the reverse happens and she’s not telling the truth either. Just can’t win with this crowd.
It’s also a hoot how vehement everyone is. On one hand, those who would deny this type of request are assholes and never do common courtesies. On the other, those that would give in to bullies are pussies. How about something in the middle? Some see even the thought of asking as rude, others see ignoring the social construct as rude. Regardless, none of that should illicit such histrionics.
Also, it bears repeating what was already mentioned… I’m assuming the only singles in the theatre weren’t the two on either side of the OP and her fellow. Why were they the only option for the latecomers? Even for those who would make a similar request, if turned down, wouldn’t you just move on to another location that had the same setup? Why that particular seat(s)?
Finally, I giggle the most at the thought of what would’ve happened if the OP would’ve written this account from the perspective of the latecomers. Most Dopers would have complained about her grousing and noted “That even when one makes a polite request, no one owes you anything.” and then there would have been many Miss Manners mentions and cites.
Ha. I love the cognitive dissonance of this place. Warms the cockles of my heart, it does.
I’m not sure why you’ve decided to march under the civility banner. In a list of civil posters in this thread, you’re not exactly in the top 40.
What **mademoiselle **is also not understanding is that it’s a slow week here on the boards, and none of us really give a shit about her or her story. Do we believe her? Or not? Who was the bigger jerk? We don’t care. We really don’t and anybody that says otherwise is delusional or has real issues regarding their priorities.
We’re just passing the time poking her w/ a stick because she’s reacting to it and it’s kind of fun. As soon as the next shiny thing pops up, we’ll go over there and poke it with a stick… but since it’s a slow week, here we are at 500+ posts with no signs of it losing steam.
It’s a pit thread, not a moviehouse, you unsocialized dog.
I think you should actually make this list, and then post it.
Well people who give it in to bullies are pussies, but no bullying occurred in the OP. Some people asked if she could please move one seat down so the couple could sit together. That’s it. Very nice, simple, common request. Seriously, that is so freaking innocuous that saying no makes me go, “Bwuh?” Why would anyone not do such an effortless, nice thing? What a jerk.
Fuck off, sir or ma’am.
I mentioned it once: two pages ago. But I guess I’ll shut the fuck up now about it.
Sorry. I was hype, because I came home and saw all these new posts. I got overzealous.
Obliged fits better I think.
I actually prefer sitting closer to the screen. I don’t care if I’m off to the side. However, I’ve gone to see a film alone all of once (friend didn’t show) and my friends tend to prefer dead centre. They also sometimes turn down requests to move - I think there’s a pretty big difference between wanting to maintain a buffer and someone else just wanting to claim middle. One friend also puts their jackets on adjacent seats or on the back of the seat in front of him, which I really don’t like. I’ve told him as such but he hasn’t changed his behaviour a jot.
Likewise on asking people to exchange seats. However, I don’t mind arriving to a movie late: the disruption is roughly equal to someone leaving to go to the toilet, which happens frequently during films. Misjudging transport times or the length of queues are one of only two variables which could lead to one arriving a few minutes late. A local cinema had monthly passes for less than the price of two tickets, so a friend and I signed up. We could drop by at any time and once watched half a movie we knew we wouldn’t like while waiting for another that we did want to watch.
So what are you going to do with this knowledge? Refuse to vacate a seat on public transport for a blind person? Slam doors behind you in public? Accuse the people disagreeing with the OP of bullying?
Dangit, I wanted to comment on the birth of the uncivil rights movement. Sniped!
But again, if you’re coming from a place where even the request seems rude, does it then make it rude to politely decline? Just saying. And everyone would be up in arms if they’d just scooted down 18" and then had to deal with someone texting through the whole movie. The amount of ire leveled at the OP is simply bizarre.
Oh, and to the idea that some are just enjoying poking her with sticks to watch her responds, I’ve got news for you. She’s not melting down, she hasn’t been discourteous, she hasn’t appeared to lose her ever-loving-nut dealing with the manufactured fallout from this. She just keeps repeating her position and not budging from it. Apparently that’s one of the things that’s pissing some people off. < shrugs >
ETA: Sorry, someone posted while I was typing this up. The first part of my reply is in response to MOL.
If the request seems rude to you, then you’re an unsocialized dog.
This current tangent has gotten pretty stale. Has anybody asked about the ethnicity of the latecomers yet? I think there could be a fresh angle that might be able to push this thing to another 500 posts.
If a space is general admission and you don’t fill rows in from the center out, you’re a dickbag and you should be reviled.
I’m sure they were minorities, which is why she had an “inkling” that they wouldn’t be good moviegoers.