This is certainly an illuminating thread. Perhaps some might find my perspective helpful or at least momentarily diverting.
I am 28 and live in New York City. I did not endure a crisis, but I did have a very rough time for my first few years out of college for various reasons. Although I worked a string of miserable but often very demanding jobs and struggled to pay the bills in my squalid apartment, these were not really the sources of my psychological difficulty. My problems were unique perhaps only to my generation.
I “sucked it up”, as it were, and have made a little something of myself. I did not necessarily have it harder than people before me, but certain factors did complicate things.
The biggest difficulties were not in paying the rent but in changing my damn world view.
There is only so many times you can be told that if you just work hard enough and are smart enough, there will be opportunities for you. Do well on this test, get into the right college, and success will be natural consequent of your efforts.
I busted my ass, studied hard, and ultimately graduated from an ivy league school in NYC just in time to watch the bubble burst in 2000. Paying the rent was hard, but learning that I really wasn’t worth shit was even harder. Passing the guys on the street with signs that said “Will write code for food” was not encouraging.
These difficultues were not insurmountable and certainly nothing in comparison to what others have endured, but they were hard. The more I tried to work to “get ahead” and to figure out what I wanted to do with my life, the more disillusioned I grew.
It was not an easy thing to discover that everything I had believe about working hard, doing good, and success were basically wrong. It was hard to work 24 hour shifts at my miserable job because people all around me were getting laid off. My reward was not losing my job. For this I went to college. I tried not to whine about it, but it really did suck. In many ways, I wished that my parents had treated me like dirt growing up, if only so that I would have been more used to it.
My parents believed that their generation was more successful than their forebears, and I was raised to believe the same of my generation. Ridding myself of this belief took some effort.
My life was further complicated by my burden of student debt. I will be carrying my student debt with me for the next twenty-five years. My monthly payment is as large as a mortgage on a little house in the midwest. I am confident that this is not something that is common to people even ten years older than me.
It is hard to pay for an ivy league education with a low level administrative job. It was hard to be reminded on a monthly basis that everything I had believed about the value of a first class education, working hard, getting good grades, etc. was fucking wrong.
To make a long story short, I was wrong, these things do have value. It just took several years for them to pay me dividends.
I tried to weather it. Alone, I probably would have failed. I was tempted to try to move back home to save a little money.
I was fortunate to have met a woman nearly four years ago, whom I have since married. I took some big risks, got another round of costly schooling, and am doing ok. I own my apartment, have been promoted once already in a very competitive global finance corporation, and feel that I am in control of my own life. Without support from my wife and from my family I do not think I would have been able to make it.
Those who are not so fortunate and do feel that their lives are in crisis have my sympathy and my best wishes for the future.