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No, actually, the quote I reference from Lee is talking about how people in her company tell her a one-syllable name. God only knows why she thinks they all have sinister motives when they may just have one name.
And I’m sorry, but our names aren’t ALL Sunil or Sanjay or Ajay or the easy ones. Some of us do have official nicknames-either Indian or English because our legal names are complicated and longwinded for other Indians. And for the record, Neel (pronounced Neil) actually happens to be an Indian name (it means Blue), which just goes to show you how much you OR the average American knows about Indian names to TRY to tell the person on the other end of the line what their name is and isn’t. Sheila, Rohan, Tara, Meghan, Monica, Kiran, Meena, Meera, Maya and Dev (which would be pronounced Dave) are also ALL Indian names that overlap with names from other cultures. Do you plan to accuse all of us of having some Indian name that may have come within your frame of reference when their names may be exactly what they’re telling you it is, and it just happens to overlap with an American name? Second, there’s no reason for you to assume you aren’t speaking to an Indian Christian on the other end of the line. And finally, the legal, birth certificate name of the person on the other end of the line is really the LEAST of your concerns if you’re calling for customer service. I just want to get a name to either write a nasty letter or a nice one depending on what type of service or refer to a manager.
I’m sorry but the obsession with our names (not to mention your incredible arrogance when you too seem to know little to nothing about the range of names possible in India such that you don’t know Neel is a real Indian name and you think it’s Sunil) is just ridiculous. I’d slap someone upside the head if they tried to make me go by my complicated legal name just because I have one.
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No, I’m not accusing you, or any given Indian, of anything whatsoever, for the record. I’m simply saying that I hate it when people condescend to me, and I hate that U.S.-based companies feel that assuming that their customers are clueless is a legitimate way to conduct business. I’m NOT blaming some poor Joe Schmoe in Mumbai for trying to do his job as best he can; I AM blaming, for example, HP for telling its customer service reps to make up monosyllabic nicknames (in the course of troubleshooting one CD burner issue, I spoke to half a dozen tech support people, not one of whom gave me a name with more than one syllable, and all of whom spoke with Indian accents. By the way, I very rarely have trouble with Indian accents; I am more likely to have trouble understanding a U.S. Deep South accent than an Indian accent, as far as that goes).
And for the record, I’ve dealt with literally thousands of Indian nationals in my professional and personal life over the years, some for periods of several years at a time on a regular basis, and have gotten pretty uniformly high ratings for my customer service skills from them. One even invited me to his wedding reception (he was one of my few local clients); others have kept in touch long after I moved to new jobs. And over this time, I’ve probably worked with 50 Sunils, but not a single Neel, just to give one example. I certainly recognize the length and complexity of some Indian names; a former co-worker (of Indian descent) even commented on how she had a hard time remembering and/or pronouncing many of them. So if you’re using this single post to judge my level of “arrogance” regarding India and Indians, quite a number of others are in a better position to judge that than you are.
Yes, I recognize that the level of detailed knowledge needed of a person’s name is very different when you are trying to prepare legal documentation for him vs. when you are trying to have him troubleshoot your printer, but I think you’re being more than a tad hypersensitive here.
Eva Luna, Employment-based Immigration Paralegal with approximately 50% Indian clients over the course of the past 7+ years