I’m elated the way this controversy has worked itself out.
To repeat Caridwen’s link
A class act all around, providing a peaceful conclusion and allowing, at least for myself, a time of reflection.
When I heard the famous Imus exchange, I’ll admit it was entertaining for me. I didn’t see it as derogatory, coming from a man who walks charitably and talks edgy. My personal experience might suggest I should know better, but on the other hand the same experience provided a whole different understanding of the best way to deal with apparent hateful language.
At the age of eight, I developed two large teeth with a space in between that increased towards the bottom. They protruded at a 45 degree angle and it didn’t help that the adjacent teeth were extremely small. No problem for me until somebody tagged me with the nickname “bucky”. That name stuck with me for the entire time I grew up in my hometown. It affected my sense of self worth, job opportunities and made my life miserable. I could eat just fine. In fact, I could eat corn on the cob through a barbed wire fence. Later on, I elected to have my front teeth pulled and replaced with a bridge. What a relief.
Both my “enemies” and my friends used the word. It was easy enough for me to see that there were those who were deliberately being hurtful and those who just didn’t know better. Rather than allow my “enemies” the satisfaction that they were hurtful to me, I did not express my feelings.
So this is where I’m at when it comes to people using words like nappy and even jigaboo. Nigger is clearly offensive and no one can make a case that it isn’t intended to be. But the other words are descriptive of appearance that no one should be ashamed of. Even jigaboo, obviously in reference to the black skin, evokes voodoo , a legitimate black cultural entity. Either way, it is difficult for me to understand why people should take offence to nicknames or references to a specific normal physical appearence and in kneejerk reaction, claim the perp is hateful.
To get to my point. Up until the Imus- Rutgers meeting, I would have thought that the hulabaloo would only provide more ammunition and motivation for those who really hate blacks. It will happen in quiet confrontations that won’t get any press but some lone black kid will now get called a nappy headed jigaboo and that kid will know he’s being hated and the perp will know he’s getting through.
Now, it appears that the hulabaloo was worth it, common sense has prevailed, there is healing, everyone’s going to be a little more careful, and we may have cracked a racial barrier that will allow for a fair examination of a powerful subculture that affects fundamental attitudes towards women on the part of our youth. No matter how you look at it, I think we all just come out ahead.
And btw, the Rutgers team may have lost the final, but they’ve gained the respect of a whole lot of people for their action off the court.