The position being stated is the position of trans people. So you are saying that trans people haven’t not thought out their position–the core position–on the topic.
You’re not a woman. Fine. But you’re also not trans. If you think you have to defer to women, then why don’t you have to defer to trans people? And why is this opinion stated by a small subset of women being taken to be the position of all women?
Again, I point out that most feminists are trans-positive. They see how they were treated as women, and don’t want to do the same thing to other minorities. There is a reason why feminists who are trans exclusionary get a special title, while those who aren’t don’t. They are the exception.
The idea that you, someone who had apparently never heard of the topic before knows more than the people who live every day being trans is ridiculous. I’m not pushing a male position. I’m doing my job as an activist and echoing their position.
Are trans activists sometimes pushy? Sure. What do you think activists are? Feminists are often pushy. MLK was pushy. It’s just what happens when you fight for people’s rights. It’s not remotely an argument that they’re wrong. That they make say it’s unacceptable to be anti-trans is no different than those who say it is unacceptable to be anti-gay or racist. Feeling pressure can just mean that you’re the one behind the times, not that those putting pressure on you are wrong.
I don’t feel sorry for JKR because, when told that her actions were hurting trans people, her reaction was not one of trying to make them feel better. She even admits she could have written “trans rights are human rights” but didn’t. Instead, everything she wrote was all about her. It was all about painting her as the victim. She admits that she didn’t even know anything about the topic until she was doing “research” where she seems to have done it with certain groups, and not actually read anything by actual trans people.
She’s wrong. She doesn’t support trans people, because, if you support someone, you care if you hurt them. You care if you’re going against their greatest desire. You try to find a way to make it where both of you can be happy, like every other feminist, not come up with proof that they and their allies are the real bad guys.
It’s just what always happens.
man: woman is different from us. They must be out to seduce our men to ruin or make us be fathers! They are dangerous. We should dominate them with physical force and push a system where they are inferior to us!
white person: Those black people are different from us. They must be out to get our women! They’re scary. We should enslave them/segregate them to keep us safe!
straight person: those gay people are different from us. They must be out to turn us all gay! They’re dangerous! We’d better discriminate against them and keep them from getting married!
cis person: those trans people are different from us. They must be out to steal our sports/sexually harass us/take over women’s spaces! We’d better deny their gender and keep them segregated from us!
It’s the same game. Just different excuses to not try and work it out so that we can all live together happily. Gotta make the minority into the scary bad guys.