[QUOTE=Bear_Nenno]
I’m so fucking lost here.
Everything after “I invite her to a BBQ later. She says she can’t go because she has to work. That sucks. We make more small talk.” makes little sense to me and doesn’t seem to fit in the continuity of the story.
At what point did she lose interest? Did she refuse subsequent attempts to take her out?
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Well I wrote about the second time I asked her out, but apparently that was devoured by the hamsters. I wrote it up, spell checked it roughly five times, and then saw it in previews, and yet somehow it just didn’t make it inside the final cut. Whatever.
Short story made long and then crammed into a nutshell: I asked her to go play minterature golf with me, she told me she had made plans with a friend but would break away if she could, and hey, is anyone else coming? I, still thinking that maybe we didn’t make up the boyfriend, hee hawed and then said I was thinking about inviting my roomates because I really wasn’t sure what kind if invite I was supposed to be making. She said “oh…well maybe I’ll call back”, and then she didn’t.
So this, on top of those other few items I mentioned, got me thinking about how much trouble I was making for myself. One coworker told me that I pretty much ruined any chance I’d have of getting her to come out with me with the mini. golf invite, and some online friends said that if she was really interested she would have made time and that was that.
So those are the reasons for my freakout.
[QUOTE=Sean Factotum]
So why didn’t you give here the chance to do what she wanted on July 4th instead of just gabbing on the phone?
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Because I can never tell when a woman is jokingly flirting as opposed to being seriously into me, this scenario included.
[QUOTE=kimera]
You need to get over this, it looks to me like it was the biggest mistake you made. Don’t give false compliments, but if you think she is beautiful, why not tell her so?
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I realize I need to get over this, which is why I spent hours online reading about how to flirt with women shortly after the first invite out. But I think you’re misunderstanding part of why I have a hard time doing it. It’s not that I can’t distinguish between which women to say it too, just that I keep most of my "Ooooh"s and "Awwww"s internal. Once it comes time to vocalize them, they’ve been rolled over in my mind for so long I worry that it would sound stale.
Now the advice about how valuable a compliment from me is to someone who likes me as opposed to the average schmoe is something I need to absorb. I never thought about it that way. Thanks for the tips.
[QUOTE=tesseract]
Hey JoeSki,
I emailed you about this thread – in case I ended up in your bulk folder or something. Also, I don’t think you have anything to apologize for and I don’t think you should.
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I have nothing against abondoning my sense of dignity to the curb where it will spend the rest of its days dancing for nickels and drinking it’s own urine, but in my experience apologising for your own akwardness just lessens people’s opinion of you and makes you look like you have no real self respect or esteem. It cements what they’ve already suspected. I won’t apologize, I’ll just try to do better.
And plus, the only real regret that I’ll have should I totally screw up is not that I upset her, just that I’ve sent the wrong message.
E-mail has been check and message recieved.
With having said all that, I called her up again and I’m going to be hanging out with her and her friends at a comedy club tommorrow
