Intro and I'm a little confused

There’s a couple terrible words we don’t say.

F-bombs are everywhere.

Agreed. One in particular comes to mind, which, as I understand it, is crude, but generally used in a joking sense in some countries (apparently including the UK, NZ, and Australia). However, many people in the U.S. see it as a deeply derogatory, sexist insult, and it definitely raises hackles on this board when it gets used, so I would suggest avoiding it here (click on the blurred words to reveal):

cunt

Feels like our whole board is the BBQ pit, but feuding isn’t as much tolerated on the travel or foodie branches or “In Memoriam” :frowning: .

And insulting/attacking posters (including mods) is pretty common otherwise. Some of the insults used to be pretty clever, tbh. Less so these days.

That one’s common on the Stew. How it is received depends on the recipient. Being an American woman, I might take offense if it were directed at me. But Aussies and UKers toss it around like candy, especially among the men.

My husband’s favorite YouTube channel is Dash Cam Australia, and if you don’t understand how that word is used outside the US, you might take offense at the language there! :laughing:

Or even how to build a trombone from PVC pipe. Hows it going?

Ref your other board …

There is a bunch of official sensitivity by our management / ownership to any discussion of other boards and their members.

The concern being our management (The Powers That Be or TPTB) are very concerned about not starting a inter-board flame war. We survive within the dangerous cesspool of the larger internet entirely by being small and low-profile and uninteresting.

I would be very circumspect about posting anything much beyond the name and a couple sentence bland synopsis of any other board.

I searched for “stew forum” and found a nice forum about… stews. Like Brunswick stew.

Ya, fair enough, and I alluded to perception of recruiting above. In fact, I posted a thread over there asking for other discussion forum recommendations, which is where this place came up… and remember when I would have disallowed a similar thread by other posters in a rare mod action. But the board owner posted in the thread, so I’m still alive there.

And flame/recruiting wars aren’t out of the question, or at least weren’t back in the day. However, they would more likely try to invade Mumsnet or similar than this place. I get it.

Usually, invaders are spotted quickly and banned.

I don’t think we have any cabals here.

Or do we? I’m never in the in group.

Also avoid racist slurs. (Which I hope you didn’t want to use anyway.)

You can cleverly insult posters in the Pit, if you want. Not elsewhere. So check what forum you’re in before posting. – some other rules vary between forums, in particular about staying on topic; though if you slip and go off topic somewhere you’re not supposed to, you’ll probably only get a mod note asking you not to do that, which isn’t a big deal unless you really make a habit of it. I don’t browse by forum and occasionally forget to check before posting.

And you can’t argue about moderation anywhere except in About This Message Board (ATMB.) If you get modded in a thread, obey the moderation in that thread; if you want to argue about it, start an ATMB thread to do that.

Well, it’s a tuba, not a trombone, and it’s made from a lot of other things besides PVC, and that thread is actually Cafe Society , but other than that… Well, it seems like there’s always something else that comes up, most recently, one of my pipe bits is a little longer than I thought it would be, and so I need to cut another hole in one of the boards to make room. Might still get to First Blow before the break, but then I still need to tweak the valves some, and tune it, and order more brass so I can finish the fourth valve, and of course finish writing up the instructions…

I had not been aware of the tuba thread nor the tuba project. Tres cool! To avoid further hijack, here’s the cite to there:

Yes. I’d say the policy towards cursing here is somewhat similar to that of the New Yorker magazine, known for its literary standards, which is basically this: don’t use foul language gratuitously, but if there’s a reason to use curse words, go nuts! It doesn’t even have to be a serious reason, just a reason.

For example, nestled among the pages of distinguished prose gracing the New Yorker have been several installments of a humour column called “The Cursing Mommy”, ostensibly first-person accounts of a troubled day in the life of a typical mom with a small child, in which almost every fourth or fifth word was “fuck” or some grammatical variant thereof!

Welcome back from an (ex) fellow Melburnian (waves at your hubby). Swearing is fine when appropriate in pretty much every forum, but you can say FUCK whenever you like, appropriately or not, in the BBQ Pit.

The mods are mostly decent people, but watch out for @Miller. He can be a right twat when the mood takes him! /j (sort of).

The membership here has dropped dramatically in my (counts fingers) 24 years here. We’re an ageing bunch, some have just drifted away or have been banned, and this old messageboard format doesn’t seem to attract the younger mobs anymore, which is a shame really.

But happy new year (we in Aus got here first compared to the US) and hope you hang around and have a bit of fun here.

Thanks and he says hi too! He’s originally from Frankston, and his sisters live in the outer suburbs. We missed Christmas and NY this year but were in Australia this past February and half-dodged the bushfire near the Grampians, where another bushfire just passed a few days ago. NY Eve 2019 we spent dodging bushfires inland of Merimbula, so that was fun. We’ll be back to Australia for a week in early March.

@pezworld might like to check out Any Port In A Storm

It’s all fairly light chitchat with a bias towards posting photos, recipes, favourite music and the like. Members tend to skew rather older and much less STEM-oriented than SDMB.

That’s… saying something. Necromancy?

Looks kinda… not alive there.

@pezworld please be welcome, and I look forward to your future involvement in our little corner of the 'Net.

If you can write at least semi-coherently and are not always a complete jackass, you’ll find a warm community here.

People here provide solace, advice, jokes, support (including solid real-life stuff) suggestions, complete hijacking of conversation topics, and I think a couple of them at some point met each other & got married.

People also push back against assholery (is too a word!) and as mentioned above, we expect you to bring data to debates.

(Although obvs if you post in MMP “I brushed my teeth and ate breakfast” we’re not gonna demand a cite. Usually.)

But if you tell us that you have a cute cat or dog, we will ask for a cite for that.