I don’t know if you know what an extraordinary gift that is.
I think she was really impressed we set up a trust for our son. I haven’t talked to my husband yet about what all went down, but he went over there this morning to give her a photo book he made for her, and then somehow this happened.
I’m writing her a personal letter because this is really personal to me. I hate hate hate having student loans. And after eleven years of payments, it’s always, oh, but we’ll get a higher rate of return if we invest, and it’s just been a big psychological burden I’ve had to learn to live with. And affecting our cash flow quite a bit. We finally paid off his loans, but with the most recent windfall we decided to invest and set up the trust. And so I’m like shit, I have to keep living with these loans until they are discharged in nine years. We won’t be able to afford a mortgage payment until they’re gone. Etc.
But I presume she asked if we paid off the student loans, he said, no, we set up a trust for our son, and she wrote a check and said: For goodness’ sake, just pay off the loans.
So it’s like she personally granted me permission to get rid of them.
I tried to articulate this in the letter. I barely know this woman because we’re usually in a huge group and I’m very shy, but I wanted to get across how personal this is for me, how important my education was to my upward mobility and how difficult things have gotten with my son’s medical needs. I also want her to know how much I love her grandson, because, well, I dunno, I think I would want to know that my grandson was extremely loved by his wife.
We do have a 529 for our son, and we’re contributing $300/month, which is what we could afford. We could probably raise it now but at our last calculation we could probably get him through our alma mater at $300/month.
Of course right now we’re just trying to get him through kindergarten. It’s harder than we thought.
I was hesitant to set up a 529 because with his disability I’m not sure whether he will be college ready, but once they changed the rules to allow Roth contributions I felt a lot better about the choice.
Which reminds me, does anyone happen to know if you can make a trust the beneficiary of a 529?