Are you clear now that “bullying” is something that I believe asahi would say that’s happening, and I disagree?
Now that’s a question I can answer, because it makes sense. Asking me to provide the common definition of a common word is bizarre. Asking me why that doesn’t really fit international relations (IMHO) is a fine question.
I don’t think “bullying” really applies to most international relations disputes (there may be some, I’ll think about that later) is because nations, being sovereign, are generally in the business of coercing each other literally all the time, in ways that are advantageous to any actors’ particular capabilities in goals.
And in the vast, vast majority of circumstances, that coercion happens within a framework of laws and norms that specifically exist to protect but limit that behavior. I have a hard time seeing activities that are within the rules as constituting “bullying.” I think bullying implies illegitimate actions.
Also, it is clear that in this case, both the US and Iran have been poking at each other for decades, and it’s pretty much been a draw. The US has overwhelming military might, but it has not been leveled at Iran (yet, hopefully never). Iran through its proxies killed more Americans than any terror group before AQ. I have a hard seeing the term “bullying” apply to a situation where both sides are taking shots at each other, even if one hasn’t yet escalated as far as they could.
I think the element that most would say applies to “bullying” in this context are size/power imbalance. While that is true, I don’t think as a general matter that it’s a very useful lens to examine international disputes. For example, Israel versus Iran: is one bullying the other? I don’t think so. Iran has ten times the population plus a ton of influence in some of Israel’s neighbors. Both have similar defense budgets, but Israel has better technology. Iran has instigated far, far more attacks in Israel than vice versa. For these kinds of comparisons, I think applying the term bully is simply a facile perjorative that indicates one sympathies rather than shedding insight on the conflict. (Sort of like, my side has freedom fighters, your side has terrorists.)
That’s why I don’t think the word bully is really appropriate to describing the situation. Shoot, it’s possible that Iran could sink a couple carriers and make us limp home to terror attacks in our cities if we don’t escalate to a nuclear war - let’s not pretend they are 90 pound weaklings. (I strongly oppose war with Iran for the costs they would bear, and that we could bear also).
That’s why I think it’s third-grade level thinking to say the US is bullying Iran.