I’m guessing STEM fields are quite a bit different. I have a colleague who went through four years of engineering hell in undergrad and now tests jet engines while making good money and traveling the country with her husband and child. I have an uncle with an M.S. who does quite well as a computer engineer. If you’re into job stability and economic mobility, it’s probably not a bad option.
My husband is in his 7th and final year of a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. It requires a great deal of sacrifice not just on his part, but mine too. I’m not even sure ‘‘happiness’’ is a reasonable expectation at this point. But perhaps once this purgatory is over we’ll feel differently. He went into it for the right reasons - because it was a requirement for the kind of job he wanted to have. Was it worth it? We honestly don’t know right now, because I think the kind of job he wanted to have only exists in his dreams.
I know a lot of engineers and engineering types. I was raised by one, such a mind who could not fathom why I wasted my time writing about things that weren’t real and who looked at me funny if I tried to point out shapes in clouds (‘‘It’s a turtle!’’ ‘‘No, it’s a cloud.’’) Engineering brains are special. Both Ph.Ds in humanities can think and Ph.Ds in engineering can think, but it’s not anywhere near the same kind of thinking, and both are critical to human existence. I know that’s a hard sell to an engineer, but as someone who has straddled the line between idealistic creativity and pragmatic analysis for most of my life, trust me, you need us as much as we need you.
That said, STEM fields are more valued by society, particularly in economic terms. That’s just a hard truth and anyone who wants a career in humanities will have to come to terms with it if they choose that path. I work in one of the least valued professions in the country, social work (more specifically: I write grants for nonprofits.) I’m well-rounded enough and with sufficient aptitude that I could have been an engineer, a lawyer, a doctor, or whatever. I made a choice based on what I value, not what society values.
In a way it’s not fair to my husband, because the job I wanted actually does exist and I have found it more than once, after a relatively short 2 years in grad school. But honestly? I think I got lucky. It turns out one of the things I most love to do in the world is one of the things that is most in demand in my field. When I first signed up for grad school I didn’t even know nonprofit development was a thing. I didn’t realize how valuable grant writing was in my field until I tried to find a replacement for myself before leaving my last job. Most people hate this gig, and a lot of people who like it aren’t very skilled at it. You can practically see the dollar signs in prospective employers’ eyes when I announce, sincerely, ‘‘I love writing grants!’’ And I do, I fucking love it. I could do it every day for the rest of my life and die happy. It may not pay as much as other jobs, but it’s enough to make a decent living, and more importantly to me, it’s a valued skill that makes me indispensable in my field. What it lacks in lucrativeness it more than makes up for in employability.
So. I guess my point is, as someone who came from an environment where I was raised to believe education is EVERYTHING (and who still, on some level, believes that) I want to emphasize the difference between education for its own sake, or for chasing your passion, and education as a means of economic mobility. The decisions you make might vary depending on how much weight you give either consideration. It’s a choice everyone has to make for themselves, and the outcome is never guaranteed.