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As a white American currently living in Cameroon, I gotta say I don’t think it’s possible. I live very far away from anyone who shares my culture. And while all Cameroonians are surely not the same and there is a huge variety of individuals in this society, not a single person in my village is an American, or will ever be able to interact with me the way an American does. It’s impossible to live every single day in a different culture and not have to generalize sometimes. There is no way I could treat a Cameroonian friend and American friend the same way. They’d simply get offended. It wouldn’t work.
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Suppose you had a Cameroonian friend who was raised in America, or an American friend who had been raised in Cameroon, or a cultural anthropologist who was immersed in an alternate culture and dedicated to experiencing and documenting how it worked and who was a descriptivist rather than prescriptive in their approach to such things, or any other varying individual that might in some way break the mold … would it really not be possible to get out from a generalization?
Highly unlikely is not the same as impossible, after all.
[QUOTE=even sven]
We all come from some place different, and our entire beings reflect where we came from- none of us can seperate our values, beliefs, worldviews, whatever- from our background. This doesn’t mean everyone with the same backgrounds is the same, just that our backgrounds are an intimate and unseperable part of us.
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What’s your basis for making those claims? Conscious choice along with numerous other variables would have to enter into it somewhere, otherwise those with the same background would be fungible. And even if we are influenced by a background, it doesn’t mean that influence is universal or inexorable.
Likewise, people who come from different backgrounds can arrive at the same values, beliefs, worldviews, etc…
If two people can have the same backgrounds and have different values, beliefs, worldviews etc… and two people can come from different backgrounds and wind up with the same values, beliefs, worldviews, etc… that does indeed tell us that you can separate someone from their backgrounds to a certain degree. The limits and nature of that separation would then be determined experientially and experimentally.
[QUOTE=even sven]
And there will always be things that people from a different background will never fully understand. This doesn’t just mean color, obviously. Class, location, religion, gender, family structure…everything is a part of it. But color is in there, too.
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You are making a very definitive set of extremely strong claims, saying some things will “never” happen, saying that there is not even a possibility that some things will happen, ever. The burden of proof is on you to support that claim. What support do you have to support such absolutist positions?
[QUOTE=even sven]
So what do we do? We accept each other. We recognize the tensions between generalizations and individuals. We keep an open mind, but recognize that there will be differences between people, though these difference are not something that is rigid. It’s not like someone is automatically one way because they are from a certain background- just that they will likely be different than someone from a different background.
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But that’s my point. If they’re not rigid or deterministic, and things are likely rather than inexorable, then flexibility is allowed and statements like “never” and that things aren’t even “possible” are not justified.
The liminal space in any situation is often the most fruitful, and shouldn’t be ignored.
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And I guess most importantly, we need to recognize these differences aren’t bad or something to be ashamed of. And then we do our best to live with each other with love and compassion and build a society where we are each respected as individuals.
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Well, yes to the second sentence, a resounding (yet qualified) “heck no” to the first sentence.
Sometimes, differences are bad and are something to be ashamed of. During the 20th century, if someone was a Nazi due to how they were raised/indoctrinated/what-have-you, that would be bad and something to be ashamed of, especially if they were pushing Jews into the gas chambers.
If a time machine zapped you into the time and place of the Aztecs and they sacrificed you, that would be bad even though it was the norm under their culture/religion.
People whose culture/upbringing helped them become gay-bashers are both bad people and have something to be ashamed of.
I’m not sure if you’re advocating hard cultural relativism or if I’m misunderstanding you, but if I’m not misunderstanding you, I believed you have advanced an untenable position.