Is being sex obsessed with your wife considered a sin in muslim and christian religions, or is it ok to be that way as long as its not with someone other than your wife?
I don’t think there is a specific prohibition but you ask about being “sex obsessed with your wife” which broadens the question, possibly beyond GQ into GD. My first take on the OP question is your wife is the one you should be lusting for but is it causing any other behavior? Is lust causing a husband to demand things from his wife she doesn’t want to do? Does it cause someone to neglect other duties in life? Drop trou in church? Paul said in First Corinthians 7:3 to give your wife her propers and for her to do likewise. Okay, I’m parphrasing a bit but the queen of soul translation isn’t on gospelcom.net
You have to define " sex- obsessed". Doe it merely mean wanting sex often? Not a sin in the official Catholic view. Does it mean treating your wife as an object whose only function is to satisfy your sexual desires, rather than as a person with wants and needs of her own? I seem to remember one Pope specifically stating that this behavior was wrong, but the explanation given really had nothing to do with sex- it was wrong because it involved treating a person as an object.
In the case if Islam, men who engage in polygyny are instructed (I do not recall whether it is in the Qur’an or the Hadith) that they must satisfy the needs of each of their wives. (There is a similar tradition within Judaism, that both parties must look to the needs of their respective spouses.)
Christianity is not quite so open on the topic, with first Paul and later Augustine of Hippo (among others) adding to a general tradition of discouraging sexual attitudes alongside the tradition that sex was primarily for procreative purposes. However, within marriage, sex has always been seen as an expression of the mutual love of the spouses. From that perspective, there is no bar to a person lusting after his or her spouse except, as Padeye has noted, when one’s lust interferes with the person of the spouse. Demanding immediate gratification for any sexual whim, regardless of the health or mood of one’s spouse, would be an act of treating the spouse as an object and would be condemned. Mutual lust, freely given, has no such bars. (Some commentators attempt to distinguish between lust (as some sort of free-standing vice) and conjugal desire, but I suspect that they are just uncomfortable with the notion of “lust,” in general, having read too many early Christian condemnations of it.
Although even Paul encouraged husbands and wives not to deny each other sex (see I Corinthians 7:3-5).
The thread title mentioned “coveting,” which brings up the tenth of the Ten Commandments (or ninth and tenth, if you follow the Roman Catholic numbering?). But that forbids coveting your neighbor’s wife (or house, or SUV, or whatever); you can’t, by definition, covet what’s already yours. If what the OP asks about is breaking any of the Ten Commandments, it’s not the one about coveting but the one about “Have no other gods before me.” It can be argued that obsessing about anything, to the extent that it becomes the most important thing in your mind, is breaking this commandment.
Can’t you see some of the seriously controlling behaviors of abusive spouses as this form of carnal lust - the sequestering of your wife at home so she doesnt really ever meet anybody, though it isnt really lust per se, it is a dominance issue…but it is ‘covetous’ behavior anyway…[in this i mean think of the little kid with his chocco bunny…he hides it away and eats it away from everybody else so he has ALL of it to himself … and if he covets his brothers chocco bunny and steals it, he runs off somewhere secret to eat it away from everybody else…]