Some of you recall a thread that I started last week that I asked to be deleted about a recent car accident that I had. Well, that’s still being resolved, and I’m still not sure of the outcome, but that’s really just background for today’s little fracas.
I was coming home from my mother’s house, and on my road, a block away from my house, there was a garbage truck. We have a narrow road, and there was just enough space to get by the truck. Since I knew the guy was working, I stopped the car completely, creeped past the garbage truck very slowly, and as I approached the front of the truck the guy was right in front of it. He stopped and stared a me with pure malice.
It gets better. After I dropped off the car so that Robin could go to work I was standing outside. The guy stopped and read me the riot act about how “four of his coworkers were killed just last month by assholes like you, you passed me going 35 (which was not so, and on that road even empty is simply not possible), and you weren’t paying attention and wouldn’t it have been nice if I were lying on the road dead because of you?”
I did nothing wrong. I barely had enough room to creep by, Robin had to get to school, and I safely (very, very slowly and with due regard for this guy) passed a stopped vehicle, and this guy was the one that was not paying attention and nearly got himself killed, and somehow it’s my fault.
I no longer have any confidence behind the wheel of a car. None. Frankly, I’m scared, because even when I do nothing wrong I do something wrong. How can I regain confidence when no matter what I do I get into trouble?
The bad news: I work 30 miles away (I’m back on active duty until the endof the year). But I’m afraid to drive anywhere for any reason. My shift will not allow me to take the bus home, and I can’t have Robin picking me up every night at 11:30, because that’s not fair to her and it’s definitely not fair to Aaron.
So what do I do? I don’t want this responsibility anymore. I don’t want to be scared everywhere I go, because that skittishness will only make things worse.