I completely agree with you that it isn’t racist, but oh boy you can get shit for not dating a 45 year old or an obese person. You’d be surprised how many people will say you’re shallow for having a preference.
Now get on out there and give women a chance, you sexist pig! 
Oh I did, for years. They just… lack a certain something…I can’t put my fingers on it, but I’ll know it if I see it.
I knew there was a reason I don’t socialize much. Apparently it’s im fucking possible to say anything without stepping on someone’s toes. Calling someone friendly is racist? Christ on a cracker. Can I say they seemed short?
Racism will never die as long as you people keep redefining it into ubiquity.
It won’t die as long as people keep making judgments based on characteristics unrelated to the quality being described. They weren’t friendly because they’re Mexican. They were friendly because they happen to be friendly individuals, they wanted tips, they wanted tourist business to continue, they took a liking to you, whatever.
Meh. I date to please myself, not to please others. An integral part of being in a relationship with someone, for me, is physical attraction. I don’t think that makes a person shallow. If I’m not physically attracted to someone, it’s hard for anything serious to develop. I’m not attracted to black men, and I’m not attracted to fat men, but I’ve yet to be called racist or obesist(?) for it. I would laugh at the judgement for being the nonsense that it is.
Correct. I’m always claiming the Thais are a friendly people, and they are overall. But I have indeed met some who were not very friendly.
Being attracted to one race is one thing. Fetishizing someone because of their race is another. I’d be suspicious of someone who had only dated within one race. Attraction is a strange, and it’s too strange for it to just “happen to work that way” over and over again unless there are other forces at work.
I live in China and many, if not most, of the male foreigners here are here to have sex with women. I’m of two minds on this. Some are genuine creepsters. I know guys who “specialize” in virgins and guys with very demeaning “systems” that don’t end up making the girl happy ever. It’s very predatory and gross.
On the other hand, there are other guys who have weight/height issues that really will make it difficult to find an attractive partner in their home country. Often these guys are looking to get married. Everyone deserve a little love, and if they choose emotionally mature partners and are clear about what they are looking for, why shouldn’t they get some companionship?
Given the incredibly low bar for what counts as racism these days, I don’t see how categorically ruling out ever dating someone solely because of their race could be anything but racism. Sorry, but it’s not much more complicated than that.
Yes it is racist, you’re basing a decision soley on someone’s race. But so what? We all do that to some degree.
The big myth is there’s no such thing as being a little racist. That is wrongs. Racism isn’t a black and white thing. As Lionel Jefferson said (about Archie Bunker) "He’s OK if you know how to take him, it’s not like he’d burn a cross on your lawn.)
We all have degrees of prejudice. For instance, I would say I am not attracted to East Asian people. But that doesn’t mean I would say “If you’re Chinese or Japanese,” don’t bother contact me for a date. I mean there are more than a billion of them, so there MUST be a few that I’d find attractive.
So if you’re saying “I don’t like Asians or Blacks,” you’re basing a decsion soley on race and by definition you are a racist. But there are LEVELS.
Here’s another example I had a boss Paul, who didn’t like blacks. I worked the front desk of a hotel and he was the manager. One of the front desk clerks quit and Paul said “I guess I’ll have to work the desk.” (Which he hated to do). I said, "You think that is bad, Renee just completed secretarial school, so you’ll be making the bed in a few weeks when she quits. (Renee was a housekeeper and she was black). Paul looked at me and said “She knows how to be a secretary?” I said “Of course.” He said “Go get her up here, she’s our new front desk clerk.”
So I did, and Renee worked out very well. She got front desk, and computer experience, to go with her secretarial training, and Paul didn’t have to work the desk. Even though Paul didn’t like Blacks, he didn’t like them so much that he’d work an extra shift because of the prejudice.
I asked Renee if it bothered her that Paul didn’t like blacks, she said “No, he don’t have to like me, as long as he’s polite and pays me my money.”
So you see it’s not a black and white things. You can be a little racist or say racially incorrect things without being a KKK member
Racism is when you deny people something the need or are entitled to, like jobs, housing or opportunities to advance themselves professionally or economically. Denying a stranger sweet, sweet sexual congress with me may seem unfair and burdensome, but my experience is that they’ll eventually get over it and be no worse for wear (or lack of same).