See that’s the clarification I wanted. Being right is useless in most social situations unless you’re perceived to be right.
" Is it unreasonable to be apprehensive about sharing saliva with gay men" just doesn’t go well with people because sharing spit is ICKY. It sounds like you’re talking about making out with them.
What you want to say is " Is it unreasonable to be more apprehensive about sharing saliva with gay men then with straight men?".
I know that was a communications issue not related to the thread, but believe me I’m on the gay rights side too. Communication is important if you want to win people over.