Sucks for you. I find weddings a lot of fun, but maybe I’m fortunate in neither my family nor my wife’s family is big on destination weddings. Most of the weddings are right here in the Bay Area, typically on a Saturday. This September my sister-in-law is getting married so of course we will go; in spite of all the drama between her and her husband-to-be, she was willing to pay for our wedding photographer, videographer, and limo rental in spite of her having no steady job (and bought her bridesmaid dress for $200 with no fuss even though she was the ‘biggest’ bridesmaid and had the hardest time finding a variant that fit well). Since she was so awesome at our wedding we didn’t hesitate to offer to pay for her caterer, which will cost what she spent helping us out (so it evens out).
Over the last several years I’ve been to many- my best friend’s (two years before mine), friends of my wife, several of my cousins, several of my wife’s cousins, etc. The way I see it is that its getting invited to a party where someone else is paying for all the food and booze, and my family and my wife’s family are very low-drama so you can cut loose and have a good time without any reprecussions. The only wedding I’ve been do that was a lot of drama was the only destination wedding (my brother) and the drama was because he was a dick to my family and ditched us to hang out with his wife’s family without telling anyone. But even that’s cool because myself and my mom had an impromptu “Incubus’s brother is a selfish asshole” party which actually was more fun without him around anyway, and since then my brother has grown up quite a bit.